Young girls wanting children?

[freehugs]

Most young girls get broody right? Or is it just me?

Of course i can't help thinking having a baby would be lovely, but then i stop myself and realise everything else that comes with a baby and then realising im probabally not in the best position to have a baby..

but still that thought is always there, everytime i see a little kid, and i'll read through all the pregnancy posts even though im not pregnant :/

Is that bad? I'd never act upon it, and i know i can't even begin to understand how hard it is to be a mother let alone at 17! One of my friends had a baby a few months ago and she's an amazing mother but she obviously never gets time out anymore even though shes still with the father and they're very much in love..

Anyone like me at all?

xxxx

[taylalatbh.]

I know a good few people my age from school who have children, and I think it's a bit silly. More often than not, your teenaged young life is over and everything has changed, and I would assume most would have liked to have waited. It's like children raising children, and that just can't work successfully.

I know some people have children young, and sometimes it's okay. So no disrespect to anyone. But I think it's better to wait until you're older, in a stable adult relationship, and can financially support and home you and your children.

It's not great for young women to want children, but I'd rather them just want them, then act on it and have children young. It just seems like a really difficult life, especially being so young. And I wouldn't want that for anyone. The majority of the young relationships with children break up, and the father wants nothing to do with the baby. And I feel that's unfair on the child. Maybe if they were older, and the baby was thought about and planned, that wouldn't have happened.

I too always think about having a child, as I love being around children. But I couldn't allow myself to get pregnant, and have a child even at 19. I know I wouldn't be able to support the child enough financially. And I wouldn't want to limit the childs potential in life because of its upbringing.

As long as you've got a good head on your shoulders, and you know what you want to do in life, and not have a child until your ready, then you should be fine. But if it does happen, then that's okay too. But I wouldn't advise planning to have a child, especially at 17. You probably couldn't support yourself, let alone you and a child.

If you want to talk, message me Take care!

[Rainbow Dash]

There are times where I want a child badly. I just know the reasons for why I want a child are selfish and I'm really not in the greatest position (financially or mentally) to have a child.

It's perfectly normal to want a child, as long as you don't act upon this and wait until everything would be ready there's nothing wrong with your feelings.

[Painted]

I agree with what everyone has said already. I love children and sometimes I want to be able to have one so badly its stupid and I am only 15. But yes, I think its probably natural so many people and you just have to make sure you won't do anything you would regret! :3

[rhapsody]

I think its so natural for teenage girls to get broody. Yesterday I was sitting on the beach with my boyfriend and I was getting so broody watching this cute little 1 year old kid trying to run down to the sea in a tiny little swimsuit and water wings. But then I thought - if we had a baby now then we wouldn't be able to do any of the other stuff we have planned for next year, like going to Paris, travelling round America and getting married.

It seems like a lot of the young girls (who are not in serious relationships) who actually go ahead and have kids on purpose do it because they want someone who will love them unconditionally and always be there for them - which they are not getting enough of from their family and friends.

[Dr. Gregory House]

It's very natural for young girls to want a baby. In puberty, I think your motherly instincts also start to develop. Little girls play with dolls and take a Mommy role. It's an implication for us, even as toddlers, that we are one day supposed to become mothers.

I get that feeling every time I see a baby, toddler or small child. Like clockwork, I'll be walking with my fiance and see a baby and say, "Awww, look at how cute!" and he'll say, "No, dear, not yet." He even tries to shield me from seeing babies now because he knows the comment is coming.
Every time I hold one of the babies at church, I always tell their moms (especially these two sweet baby boys in particular) that I'm going to steal them.

I have to snap myself back into reality, though, and say, "No, I'm not ready for it yet. I'm in college, I'm not married, I don't have a stable income..." But it's still nice to "play Mommy" for a while, even as a big kid.

It seems like a lot of the young girls (who are not in serious relationships) who actually go ahead and have kids on purpose do it because they want someone who will love them unconditionally and always be there for them - which they are not getting enough of from their family and friends.

Ding ding ding! You've hit the nail on the head with this one!

[Cosmo]

Perfectly natural. but when they go and have a baby it makes me very sad for the baby, and that they will never have the life they wanted. When you have a baby young, IMO, you ruin 2 lives.

[haveXhope]

It's natural to want a baby at a young age.
I went through it at age 15.
I was in a very serious relationship and I of course, did my fantasizing.
Although, I got over it VERY quickly.
I did a lot of research and found the costs of child birth, clothes, food, diapers, furniture, and other baby necessitys and I think I almost had a heart attack.
So before you make any rash decisions, I would research until there's nothing else to research.
And, wait until you're madly in love, and you're done with college/ or have a stable career, whatever you're shooting to do, get married, and then save a decent amount of money and set it aside just for your baby/ family together.
It's what's best for you, the guy you may be involved with, and your future children.
Good luck, if you need to talk, PM me.

[freehugs]

I'm glad to know its not just me !

And gosh no i wouldn't act on it, and for medical reasons i litterally cannot act upon it at the moment or maybe ever..

Thankyou to everyone for replying and for people who have offered to talk to me thats really sweet of you, thankyou This is the least of my worries

xxxxx

[Actress]

I'd love to have a baby someday, but I'm 13, just a kid. Some of the boys in my school joke that I'm pregnant about to be a teen mother because I sometimes play teen mothers in drama. I want to have a baby when I'm older but if I got pregnant now I'd be an idiot.

[Jocelyn.]

I had the very stupid attitude in high school of "If it happens it happens" and never really tried to prevent getting pregnant... the thought of having a baby was nice. Luckily it never happened.

Now that I do have a baby I constantly think back to what would have happened if I did. I'm in a stable relationship with someone who makes decent money and we both have a college education.... and its still next to impossible. When people say its expensive, boy they arent kidding. They are time consuming, mind consuming, and physically exhausting. I seriously want to cry with joy sometimes that I wasn't a teen mom

The only way most teen get through it is because of their parents anyway tbh. A teenager just can't support themselves and a child while going to school without help. Accidents will happen I suppose, but to do it on purpose at such a young age is really just not fair, and just plain selfish...

[appleberry]

I will say that I personally take offense when people say "a child raising a child" could never work out. It's true that in most cases, teenagers aren't mature enough, mentally or physically, for the drain of an infant. However, you should realize that it can work, as it has for my family.

That being said, a majority of what everyone else has said is true. Teens and even pre teens have maternal feelings. When I got pregnant, my best friend went baby crazy and couldn't stop wanting a child. But now that she's seen what you really have to go through, it's died down. Don't worry, your time will come. Please use good judgement and make no rash decisions.
I love my son, and I love my life. But, it could be very very different.

[FeelsLikeFalling]

Just in defence of some young Mums here. I think it's a bit of a stereotype to say it's going to end badly, or that the mother won't be able to support herself and the child and all that. One of my closest friends ended up pregnant at 17. The second she found out she went and found the first job she could and worked throughout her entire pregnancy saving as much money as she could. Granted, she still lives at home with her parents now she's had the baby, but she supports herself and her daughter with her own money.

And about the fathers not sticking around when the parents are young? Valid point, I admit, a lot of guys don't stick around at all and it's really, really horrible. But just speaking from the perspective of a child who was planned and was born into a happy marriage. Just because the parents are in their 30's, doesn't mean it's anymore likely to have a happy ending than if the parents are teens. I see my Dad maybe once every few months? And we very rarely talk. My mum raised me and my sister on her own in the end. Being planned and being older doesn't mean it's going to be all rainbows and flowers =D

All that being said, I don't think teenage girls should run out and get pregnant just because they want a baby; You will be missing out on a lot just because you're life won't be your own for the next 18 years. I would LOVE to have a baby right now, I adore children, but it isn't practical for me right now =D. I know a few people who think like this, you definately aren't on your own Katherine, but I think it's probably a good idea that you said you know it's not the best thing for you to have a baby right now =D

[Fictional]

I've wanted a baby soooooo bad for the last three years; it's the one thing that I really want in my life. But I'm in no danger of having one just yet, 'cuz I want to be financially independant, and capable of raising it in a loving home. And I want uni out of the way first =) I think some girls don't realise white how much work goes into raising a baby. I saw a girl on Riki Lake once saying that she wants a baby 'because they're cute and you can buy them clothes'. That's the wrong attitude to take towards teenage motherhood.

[Mackenziegirl]

I have a 6 month old and if I could do it all over, I would have waited until I was older. I love my son but its really hard

[amystery]

Well obviously form all the posts you're definitely not alone in this one hun. Actually, many times I want a baby. Honestly it's not going to happen for me since I'm not in a serious relationship and it's not like Im about to go out and get pregnant> i'm definitely a kids and baby person and I won't lie I find myself wishing I were a Mom and many times Im jealous of my friend from highschool.

Now Im not saying I advise it but she had a planned pregnancy in her grade twelve year and in her case it worked out fairly well for her. She had her baby one month before our graduation and still graduated with our class, and then this summer (a yr later) she got married. And maybe it sounds fine and dandy and oh yay everything worked otu for her but she missed out on a lot of things. I think part of her regrets it but at the same time I'm jealous of her. *Sigh* Speaking of babies and kids I think it's about time I go visit my cousin n her two little boys. I miss my kids! (And just to clarify...when I say my kids I mean all the kids I've babysat and my cousins)

[Faith-Hope-Happyness]

some young people want a baby badly but when they actually have a baby its harder then they thought it would be like my school has a program were u can take a baby home ( not real ) and it acts aall like a baby . its actually a good life leasson

[Simplyme7]

I remember when I was 14 I went through this huge baby stage. I had dreams that I somehow magically got pregnant, and I had this adorable baby. I had figured out what her name would be, and where I would put her crib in my room, and I was just entirely obsessed with the idea of having a baby. I knew that it couldn't happen, because I was not in a relationship, but that didn't stop the longing.

Then my Mom got pregnant and had my baby brother who is now 3. When she had shared the news that she was pregnant, I was able to put my baby longing to use. I took care of my mom way better than my dad did during those 8 months. Sometimes I felt like I wanted the baby more than they did. After he was born I helped with everything with him, and many times I thanked the Lord that he was not my child, and that I didn't have to stay up with him all night like my mom did. That really opened up my eyes to having a baby, and after that I decided that I didn't need one anymore.

Now I am in a serious relationship, and the dreams are back, and I can't help but think "aww, wouldn't a baby be fun?" But I know better... I want to finish college and get married first. I think that wanting a baby is very normal. Hopefully. Or else I'm no where near normal. ;D Even though that is probably the case as well. =D

[Jazzz]

I wasn't a young girl who wanted kids but im now almost 20 weeks pregnant, and people saying it ruins two lives.... put yourself in each situation, having a baby does not ruin lives how can a baby ever do that it just changes lives !!
If i'd have been in a position to wait i would have but the implant failed and i wouldn't change the situation im in for the world !

Also it wont let me sign into my account on this computer, so im Monkei but posting via my old account

[escape_thereal_world]

I want/ed one. I'm just 20, and I think I'd be crazy for purposefully having one now

I mean, my fiance and I live together, and he has a great job, but we are barely able to support ourselves right now.

I can't stand the people who live in their parents' house, and are still in high school, who think they are ready to have a baby. o_O Really peeps? It's great you feel mentally ready...but having a kid is sooooooooo much harder than you think.

We don't think about the time we were last really ill, and how we would have to stay away from the baby, but maybe you don't know anyone who would babysit for you. So you are miserable and sick, and your child wants to be held, but you can't for too long in fear of getting them sick.

Sometimes...16 and Pregnant is NOT an educational show.

[Twisted]

Didn't read through all the replies, so sorry if i'm just repeating what everyone else has said i just want to add my little input as well. I feel like this, pretty much all the time, i'm in a stable, serious relationship but i'm just too young, just started a new job and me and my boyfriend still live with my parents. We're in no position to have a baby yet. I had to take the morning after pill last year because the condom split, and i can't help but think that if we hadn't had gone and got that pill then we'd have a baby by now. Sometimes i feel releived because i know we were/are in no position to have a family just yet, but at the same time my maternal instincts kick in and i feel sad, really really sad. Sometimes i feel like i aborted it, as opposed to preventing it.

I think a family of my own is the one thing i want more than anything in the world, but i also know that if i'm smart i will wait untill the time is right, we have a place of our own and a bit more money. Obviously accidents happen, and i don't have anything against young mum's if anything i admire them for being so brave and stepping up to their responsibilities, but if i can help it i would rather wait at least two years, when i'm 21 and my boyfriend is 25.

Also i don't think having a baby ruins lives, i see it as more of a really really big change. Seeing it as a way of ruining people's lives is really negative and if you think about it, how would you feel if you found out that your parents thought of you as a life ruiner at one point? Yes some people just aren't ready for it but your life isn't ruined from having a baby, you just have to make a lot of sacrifices and changes to give the kid the best possible start to life.

[Alexx]

I'd never really seen the appeal of having kids, and could never understand why people would want babies at such a young age.
But then, about a month ago, I had this really odd dream where I had a child. Then I woke up understanding the concept a little better :P

..which is odd.

[Alrex]

There is too much going on in a teenagers life during these times for them to have the time to take care of a baby.

Maybe not so much during olden days, but modern times.

[MichWolverineFreak]

Well, your 17. Your not married (most likely). You dont think your in a good position to have a kid, so, no I dont think you should have one yet.
I had dreams of getting stuck in Hawaii with my crush and having a baby when I was twelve. It obviously didnt work out, but they are nice dreams to have.

[Cosmo]

My personal opinion, any age under about 24 is too young to be having a baby. They're with you for the rest of your life, and when you have one, your life ends basically. It's no longer about your life, it's about the babies.