Should I try to make things work out with my baby father?

[caramelqueen12]

ive been knowing the guy since 08 and we fell off. we not talking anymore or anything for about a month now over a stupid decision we made. I texted him told him I could be pregnant he's still ignores me. but instead he goes with a bitch he went with in the past. they are back together but she has no idea that I'm pregnant and this happened behind her back. the way I was raised... I was raised I had planned it out if this had happened. I had always told myself if I get pregnant I would be with the baby father and now I am pregnant. I can't raise a child by myself because it is hard without the father and its hard to sit back and watch him love someone else. I'm thinking when I get my first ultrasound should I send it to him do you think it will change things? I really like him and love him we been through so much. its hard to sit back and watch the one you like and love...love someone else...what should I do?

[Angel]

It must be difficult loving someone else who does not return the affection with a child on the way. From what you have mentioned, he does not sound as if he was too good for you. People do not turn heartless over one stupid decision. If he cared for you, I believe he would show some interest in your pregnancy. Even those who don't love their previous partners would show some interest, even though it may not be positive. Either he does not care much for you at all or is trying to shut you out as he moves on. It does not seem as though an ultrasound would change his mind over the matter. You could try and talk to him properly and ask how involved he wants to be over this child, it couldn't hurt to do so. It's up to you to decide what sort of people you want involved in your child's life.

This is my opinion over the matter, anyhow. It is ultimately your decision, but it sounds as if you would be better off without someone who doesn't want anything to do with you or your child with him. I hope this has given you some insight.

Take care,

Sylvie