Male Advice Preferred: How do I help him?

[Kalyn]

Hey guys of TeenHelp;

So I've been with my fiamce for quite a while now, but there are somethings that have been bothing my man, like being impotent. He's 28, and because of a freak accident when he was little, he now only has 5% chance of getting be pregnant. I'm worried that this might cause something to happen between us, because he's very self-conscious about himself, even around me! I love him so much and want to do everything to make him happy, but this fear that he has about not being able to "do it with results" (a term he coined from a friend of his) has me getting angry and resentful that he thinks that. What do I need to do to calm his fears, and make him realize that I love him for being him?

[escape_thereal_world]

Have you guys talked about alternatives?

Otherwise, just show him how much you care and love him. Remind him, multiple times if you need to.

My boyfriend is hard-of-hearing and is likely to go deaf before he turns 50. It makes him very self conscious about our relationship. I always remind him I know it's going to happen, but I still love him and want to be with him.

You and your boyfriend can adopt, if he is alright with that. It helps other people and it helps you too.
Feel free to PM if you need anything.

Kelly

[Aletheia*]

Ultimately, he still has a chance of becoming a father to a child he made biologically. It might be a slim chance, but there is still a chance. Remind him of this.

There are also several alternatives you could try that might work for you, but you'd have to talk them over. Here are some I'd recommend:

1. Adoption: Adoption of newborns would be extremely difficult, at least I know it is here in the US. I'm not sure about Canada, but it might be something you could look into. Also, adoption of older kids, around 5 or older could work for you as well, although the process might be much more difficult.
2. In-vitro Fertilization: This is when you take his sperm and your egg and a doctor will physically insert it into the uterus to see if the egg will take. Most insurances you get through work or other insurance policies will pay for a certain amount of sessions, I've heard up to 3, as they're are quite pricey. This doesn't always work, but you could also use your egg and a sperm from a donor to become pregnant. I know that isn't ideal, but it's also something to look into. You could find a sperm donor that has similar features and medical histories as your fiance, so this might be something worth discussing as well.
3. Foster Parents: This isn't exactly ideal either since you have the option to adopt the children, but if they happen to become adopted before you consider it, it's very difficult since I'm sure you and your future husband would become quite attached. But, this is also another option that you have.

Take over these options with him and explain to him that his being infertile isn't the end of the world. Tell him how much you love him regardless of this mishap of his.

Best of luck to you.

[Ambiance]

I knew a couple that was having sex without protection, because the guy was 98% sterile, so they thought they had no worries, and the chick still got pregnant. If they could do it on accident, I'm sure you guys could do it on purpose