miscarriage

[MaggzB]

so a few weeks ago i found out i was pregnant which caused a fight with me nd my fiance and we split for like a week but are now back together last week i found out i had misscarried and my parents found out that i was pregnant from a family member i had asked advice from i told them i misscarried but my dad insists that im still pregnant. i was about 8-9 weeks and when i found out my fiance and i cryed yes we are only 18 but its difficult we had names picked out. we believe it was going to be a girl so we decided on Carli Ann.

since i found out every time i see a baby or walk threw walmart and see baby items i tear up and have to leave and call my fiance [ we live separetely at the moment cause i am in the military ] i go see him next week and it gunna be the first time i will see him since july 14th im excieted but i still get really depressed when i think see or hear about babys. i dont want to ruin my time with him because of my emotions.

any adivce or anything. this was mostly just a rant about things lol

[Le bonheur*]

Hey Maggie, I'm sorry you had to go through a miscarriage

I completely understand how you are feeling right now and I know how hard it is to see babies, baby toys, clothes, etc. without wanting to cry.

In my opinion, that just proves that you would have been a great mother because you care so much about the well being of your children.

It takes a long time to feel at ease with a miscarriage and you probably will never "get over it." It's an unfortunate situation that 1/4 women go through. (Don't quote me, I'm not sure of exact numbers).

With me, to feel at ease, I wrote my my little girl for a year and a half. Then I lost my little boy and I write to both of them. On the day I lost them (I say it's their birthdays) I set off a balloon. 12/9 - I set off a pink one for my little girl. 7/21 - I will set a blue one off for my little boy. I honor their memory and what they were to me.

Those are just some of the ideas. Feel free to message me if you'd like more or any other advice.

Carli Ann is a beautiful name, by the way.

Take care <3

[MaggzB]

thats a cute thing with the ballons i just dont wanna be sad when i see my fiance next week and idk what to do :/

[Le bonheur*]

Since you wrote back on here, I'll reply back

If you don't want to be sad, don't. You control your emotions. I know it's much easier said than done but practice it. Try to think positive and stay strong so you can focus on seeing your fiance next week.

[escape_thereal_world]

Hey, I can relate too. I had a miscarriage under 2 months ago.

It is hard to deal with, but with support it can be easier. Do something, as Brittany suggested, to commemorate her. Write to her. Talk to her aloud. Talk about her to your fiance.

It doesn't have to be sad to see him. Do something special together when you see him, something really fun. You can talk about Carli and mourn together, but then remind yourselves you have each other and you have to keep going. So have fun, enjoy being together. Mourn when you feel the need to.

Feel free to talk to me anytime.
Kelly

[iHEAVENn]

I'm sorry you're going through this.
Can you get in to counseling?

Yeah you're only 18 but so what, losing a child hurts. I hope you're doing okay and am here if you need to talk