Custody case

[RileyR]

Hi I just need an un biased opinion for this so even I am in the wrong please tell me. I have 15 months twin baby girls
My ex boyfriend/baby daddy has seen the twins maybe 5 or 6 times in their whole lives. About a week ago he asked me to bring them over for his grandma's birthday and I did. While I was there I was talking to his mom and told her that I was considering going out of state for college. The next night my ex called me screaming that I'm not taking his kids anywhere and he was suing for custody. And he is. I am have been missing class for all these court days. It's ridiculous. He doesn't pay me child support and I never asked for it because he decided he did not want to be a part of our lives and I don't want him to be anymore. I talked an attorney from legal aid and he told me that if my ex gets any kind of custody even just visitation he can refuse to let me take the twins out of state wtf! Thats insane to me I have no idea what to do

[Kira-Kira]

it will be hard but explain this to the judge that you didnt know he wanted to be apart of their lives and he doesnt pay child support to help you. child support will help lots for one my mom didnt pay when she was suppose to and my dad stuggled and he had to give up my brother to my aunt for that reason. so just stay strong it will be ok try your best to explain to the judge what is going on and try to do your best for whats right for your kids good luck hun stay strong take care

[Kate*]

I know you don't want to think about this, but if he got any form of custody it would leagally mean that the two of you would be responsible for parenting and making decisions for the kids which would mean that he would have a say in where they live and you would need his premission to move them out of the state, that law is true in all states.

Whether he gets any custody will be up to the court. It sounds like he doesn't want to be involved, but he wants the option to change his mind if he decides one day that he wants to see them or he wants to do only as much as he wants when he wants. That's just my opinion though.

[RileyR]

yeah that's exactly what the lawyer told me I think he is bitter and just trying to get back at me

[escape_thereal_world]

Generally it is the mother who gets full custody of the children with visitation rights to the father. If that happens they could prevent you from moving, but it isn't that likely. Most likely you would just have to let him come there to visit or you have to let the girls visit him.

Since he has not been a huge part of their lives, I do not see anything in favor of him winning any sort of custody, but I'm no lawyer.

My father had no custody rights even though I lived with the both of my parents (they got a divorce). My mom was poor, low job, and we had to move out of the house. My dad had money, a great job, served in the Navy, etc.

My mom got full custody because my dad worked all the time and for the mere fact that it was between mom or dad, the court said Mom. So, I wish you luck hun. Hopefully it will work out the way you want.

[RileyR]

thanks everyone I appreciate it