15 and thinking about babies?

[Chey-Chey]

ok, so i'm 15. me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. we started having sex over a year ago. (please don't tell me i'm too young on that part, thats not my problem)

i love kids. my mom used to have a daycare, i have baby cousins who i babysit all the time.

but recently, i've been REALLY wanting a baby. as in my own kid. i know it's stupid and i don't want to have a baby as a teenager. but i can't stop thinking about it.

me and my boyfriend have made plans and stuff. we want to have our kids when we're in our early 20s.

but i CAN'T stop thinking about having a baby i know it's really stupid of me, and i know this isn't whats best for my future kids. i've talked to my boyfriend about this, and he understands. and we decided to wait. but i just...i can't stop THINKING about it! i don't know what to do. i can't go a day without imagining myself with a baby.

so anybody have any ideas to get it out of my head for the time being?

thankies

[Aletheia*]

You just have to realize that raising a baby in your teens isn't the best idea. Teen mothers struggle through their entire lives, even resenting their kids because they 'never got to live their life'. Not all teen mothers feel this way, but a lot of them do. I don't think you'd want to resent your kids!

It's a normal AND natural feeling to want kids. It's an instinct. It's what we were put on this Earth to do. But, now wouldn't be a good time. You wouldn't be able to support the baby without help from your own parents, and sometimes, parents aren't always supportive of the decision to raise a baby at your age. Babies cost thousands of dollars a year, and many people in their 20's and 30's can't afford to keep a baby themselves.

You've got your ENTIRE life ahead of you. So live it before you have kids. You don't want to miss out on anything.

[blumemusik♫]

I used to be the same (minus the boyfriend :giggle: )

It's normal to want to have babies as you go through puberty - it's part of evolution, survival of the fittest and all that jazz. But it's good that you realise that'd be a bad choice at such a young age.

In the meantime, I'd just make sure you're surrounded with children often. Spend time at the daycare, or babysit more frequently. Be a mother to then rather than your own child. It's cheaper! :P

If you ever need to talk, I'm here <3

[RileyR]

You can keep my twins for a whole day I think that would help you wait lol jk

[Ashleyhateslife]

I am 16 and I to want kids. I don't have a boy friend, I know I could raise a kid on my own, I would only have money problems. I know why I want a baby, because I want to feel loved unconditionally and needed, this may be what you want also. I chose not to have a baby, instead I got a new kitten. Why don't you try to get a new pet? Or volunteer at a day care? Or volunteer as a tutor to young kids, they will need you? This might help you. Hope it does!

[Chey-Chey]

thank you everyone that all makes sense. i'm glad i asked ^_^