Underage Sex

[UseAnything]

Hi, I could really do with some help..

I'm 15 and I've been sexually active for a while now and when I lost my virginity, it was with my then boyfriend and we always used a condom and it wasn't a problem only we broke up, and now (9 months on) I have a new boyfriend and he hates using a condom, except I don't know if I can go on the pill or not? I would rather get an implant but I don't know if I need my parent's permission for that.
I don't really want to talk about this with my parents because they think I'm a virgin, and even though I don't think they'd be angry if I told them I wasn't, I'd still have to explain the circumstances in which I lost my virginity, and I don't really want to do that because it's very private and personal.
If you have any info of what I can do that would be great. I live in the UK.
Anyway thank you for your help

[Angel]

I can understand why you would be reluctant to discuss matters such as birth control with your parents. It can be awkward, embarrassing and difficult. I'm quite certain you can receive birth control without parental consent, although that might need to be doubled-checked. Locate your local family planning clinic and call them up. While you make your appointment you can ask any questions you have. They're usually really good with these things.

I'm glad to see that you are being proactive in looking after your reproductive health. If there's anything else you need, I'd be glad to help out. :)

[Sythan]

Embarassment of telling your parents vs. Pregnancy

You choose.

[LittleMiss]

You should be able to go to a clinic such as planned parenthood and get birth control. If you can prove that you are a 'mature minor', which I believe you seem to be as you're willing to think about your options, you should be able to get bithcontrol from them.
Also, remember that birth control does not stop you from contracting infections so please make sure both you and your partner are tested and infection free before embarking on your sexual relationship.

[tumblrwh0re]

I have the implant and I didn't need parents consent yet I confided in my mum and told her but if you didn't want your mum to know about how you're sexually active you could always say you want to have it to reduce your periods?

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

I think that if you're mature enough to have sex, you're mature enough to tell your parents.

[blumemusik♫]

Like Barbara said - I feel that if you're mature enough to be having sex, and aware of all the dangers, then you're mature enough to talk to your parents about birth control.

And at the end of the day, the "Mom, dad, I'm having sex and want to be safe" conversation is much easier than the "Mom, dad, I'm pregnant" conversation.

[Revolution]

Hey there,

Telling your parents that you are sexually active is so hard. It's very hard for parents to hear that their baby is now making adult decisions. But as the others have said, if you want to be an adult and make these decisions, you have to do the right thing and protect yourself from pregnancy. I would suggest telling them it is for periods. That's what I did (mostly because it actually was for periods originally ) I bet it will be fine.

The other thing though-Your boyfriend needs to suck it up and use condoms. Condoms are the only way of birth control that can protect you from STIs. Even if you are both virgins, bacteria can spread, and infections can happen. No boyfriend loves condoms, it's just reality. But what would he rather have, a sexual activity that is maybe slightly less pleasurable, or a baby or an infection? Condoms are the best option. I will not have sex without a condom, even if I am on the pill. It is a requirement for me. I did my part in protecting myself, and my boyfriend has to do his part as well.

Obviously, that is just my opinion, and this is your life. But I'm, personally, a huge advocate for condoms and believe that a man has his own way of protection, and he needs to use it. There are better brands that are less noticeable than others. I would suggest you guys experiment around. I would also recommend you look around at birth control as well. It helps regulate your periods, and makes sex a lot less complicated. Contraceptives are fabulous. But so are condoms. Good luck! PM me if you ever have any questions.

[Cosmo]

Must be really hard to tell your parents but it's the best thing to do.

[Angel]

Since the user hasn't logged back in since this thread was posted and there isn't anything constructive being added, I'm going to close this thread.

To the OP: If you have any further questions or would like this thread to be re-opened for further discussion, don't hesitate to PM me. I promise I don't bite.