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How would you feel? -
October 2nd 2011, 12:15 AM
Not sure where this thread should go, but I think it fits best here. Move it if necessary.
 Now I just want to make this clear, this scenario is **NOT** happening to me. It's happening to someone I know from my graduating class. So anyways, this is for both genders. Ladies: Let's say you have unprotected sex in the heat of a moment and you aren't able to get Plan B. You think you might be pregnant (as it's a possibility, obviously) and you get prepared for that possibility. You tell your boyfriend/fiance/etc. and he starts planning out how it's going to work out, how much money has to be saved, names for the baby, etc. Your boyfriend (of less than a year) starts getting really excited and wants the baby more than anything in this world. Then, right on time, you get your period. You tell your boyfriend/fiance/etc. that you got your period and he says "I see. Do you want to keep trying for a baby? Cause I do. " So now, you're not pregnant. You have your period. He wants a baby. He has a job. You're unemployed. He thinks he can handle it all. But you really don't want a baby, because you're so young. (The girl I'm talking about is 18 almost 19) What do you do? Men: Same scenario - but she's the one excited and just switch up the roles. (Sorry, don't feel like rewriting the scenario from another point of view.  ) So yes, any views/opinions/comments/etc. would be AWESOME, so I can pass it on to this girl. K... go.
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Re: How would you feel? -
October 2nd 2011, 12:25 AM
I would tell him I'm not comfortable with it. Plain and simple. Being honest is best in this situation. I'm not sure what else to add as to me this would be an easy situation <.< So I apologize if this is not helpful.
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October 2nd 2011, 12:49 AM
If I didn't want a baby at the time, I'd tell him no and that it isn't the right time to have a child.
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October 2nd 2011, 12:59 AM
I would tell him that we are too young and wouldn't be able to take care of a baby. That, and I don't really want one right now.
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October 2nd 2011, 09:15 AM
I would say no. There is no way that I would plan to have a baby with someone who I had been with for less than a year. There would be no way to know that our relationship would work out. And if I really didn't want to have a baby, then of course I would say no. It would be ridiculous to try for a baby when you don't want one.
However, if my boyfriend of four years and I were in this situation, and he wanted a baby and I wasn't opposed to having one (only concerned about money etc.), then I would consider it. I would be willing to have a discussion about it at least. Dreaming about the day When you wake up and find That what you're looking for Has been here the whole time. |
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October 2nd 2011, 02:04 PM
I would say no. Just because he is excited, doesn't mean that I am. I want to be financially and mentally stable before bringing a baby into this world. I don't want to do it purely on the fact that 'i want one'. Not a stable reason to bring a child into this world.
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October 2nd 2011, 04:24 PM
Quite honestly, that wouldn't exactly happen for me. I WOULD want one, however I would definitely want a job first. And for me this means being out of college with a teaching degree. And I already know after I graduate I want to travel with an organization to build schools in various countries. And while I want a child before I'm 30, I'll be graduating at 21. So really, despite the fact that I want a child very badly I probably won't consider it seriously until I'm getting close to 30 and financially stable.
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Re: How would you feel? -
October 2nd 2011, 04:37 PM
Sorry, no thanks, I'm 18 and I can't very well go to nursing school pregnant and then with an infant.
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October 2nd 2011, 10:02 PM
No I wouldn't want a kid at that age. That said, in the scenario where it's in the moment and no access to plan b, it's not like I can choose if I'm going to be a father or not.
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October 2nd 2011, 10:09 PM
theres a difference between being excited for a baby and the future, and then of course the irrational "baby fever" that can happen.
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October 2nd 2011, 10:25 PM
Yeah, no. She needs to explain to him that regardless of whether or not he's employed, they're too young and they have a while to go before they should start thinking about having kids.
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October 2nd 2011, 11:57 PM
Um no. I'm almost 21 and that still sounds a nightmare scenario to me. You should never feel pressured (even if it's just mildly persuaded) into having a baby when it's not really your decision.
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