abortion, adoption or keep it? im 15 years old

[morganhes]

hi, im 15 and i recently found out that i'm pregnant. Im not sure what to do about it. I told my parents and my boyfriends parents and they all think i should either give it up for adoption or abort it. Both my boyfriend and I want to keep it but we're not sure if thats the best choice especially since i'm only 15. Can anyone give me some advice please?

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

It's really your choice. I think you should examine all of your options before making one set choice. Your parents want what's best for you, but in the end, you're the one who's pregnant. Don't do what someone else wants if you don't agree with it. I really hope things work out for you & you're welcome to PM me anytime.

[Le bonheur*]

Hey there. I understand how unsure and scared you are because you have all these options floating around in your mind. Abortion, adoption, raising a baby. It's all so overwhelming and no matter what you do, it's going to be an emotional rollercoaster. However, do not let someone influence your decision. You are the one who is pregnant. Ultimately, it's your life, your body, your baby, and YOUR decision. PM me if you need. Stay strong.

[chickenonsteroids]

I was going to answer, but i don't want to influence your decision. No one here should make the decision for you. Admittedly it will be tough but it shouldn't be easy, it's another life.

Good luck and yea i'll allow you to PM me if you need to because well i'm kind :P

Hope your happy with your decision in the end

[blumemusik♫]

Hey You'll probably hear this loads, but at the end of the day it really is your choice.

There are other options too. You may want to look into open adoption, which is where another person adopts your child, but you get to see them whenever you like and sometimes look after them. The child usually wouldn't be told you're their mum until you and their adoptive parents feel they're ready. But you could still be a part of their life

Personally, I'm 15, and if I found out I was pregnant, I would either keep the child or go for an open adoption. I personally wouldn't consider abortion, because I'm against it. You need to consider whether you'd regret it later on in life. If you feel that it wouldn't bother you, then it's your choice, you can abort. But I personally believe you may regret it. And if you say you want to keep it, then I would definitely advise you to at least take the pregnancy full-term, and think about whether you can afford it/risk your education looking after the child, or whether you want to put him/her up for adoption.

Again, this was my personal opinion, but like I said, at the end of the day, it's your choice.

Best of luck, and I'm glad your boyfriend has decided to stick by you! <3

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

Hi there

This is a tough decision but ultimately, it is one that you are going to have to make for youself.

Explore all your choices fully and research them, so you can make an informed decision about what would be best for you and your baby.

Dont just go with something that you're not sure is right just because other people say so. Its your body and you do have that right to choose.

I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide.

Take care
x

[Kate*]

It's one of the hardest decisions you will make regardless of your choice. Don't do something that you aren't sure you want to do just because someone else says it's the best choice. You will have to decide what's right for you.

[Tigerlily.]

Everyone is right because in the end it is your body and you are the one who is pregnant, it is your choice and your choice only. I already have a plan in place for what I would do but I'm just prepared like that, you should take some time to think on it and think about what you really want to do, explore all of your options.

[Revolution]

Basically what everybody else has said. There are goods and bads about all of the choices. I would go with your heart, but think about this decision very hard as well. Do you think you and your boyfriend will last? What will you do about school? Can you afford a child right now? These are the kinds of questions to think about as well. I hope it turns out all right, please stay strong, and listen to yourself. This is your body, your choice, not anybody else's, not your boyfriends, parents, or anybody on this forum. It's your decision.

[guillotine_blades]

The choice is 100 percent yours. No one else can tell you what to do. Just remember that if you choose to parent, its not all puppies and sunshine. Being a mom is HARD. It is the hardest job you will EVER have and it never ends. It is 24/7 for the rest of your life. Is it worth it? of course, but getting there is hard. Personally if I had gotten pregnant at 15 I would have aborted. Being a mom now just reaffirms that in my mind. There is zero way I was prepared enough to be a good mom at 15, does that mean its the same for you? Absolutely not. There are several women who became moms at 15 that were and are wonderful moms, I just wouldn't have been and I realize that because I am a mom now. In the end, you need to sit down with your boyfriend and you need to be realistic about this, about what becoming parents right now will mean. Maybe contact some other parents that were 15/16 when they became parents and talk to them about it.

[justfallinginlove]

Welcome to TH, love.
I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now. This is your body, and your pregnancy, therefore your decision. Just consider your options very carefully and thoroughly. If you feel abortion is best for you, then thats what you should do. If you feel like you want to have the baby and put it up for an adoption, then thats what you should do. If you feel like you can take on the challenge of raising a child at such a young age, then thats what you should do. What I'm trying to get across is that this your decision firstly and then if you are taking anyones opinions into consideration it should be your boyfriend's. Don't base your decision on what your parents and your boyfriends parents want you to do because ultimately it isn't their child. I wish you the best of luck. And no matter what you decide, we are all here for you at TH. PM (private message) me whenever you want <3

[Magic.]

I won't advise you because this has to be such a personal choice. But look into each option really carefully so you know exactly what would happen. Then you can make a decision based on what's best for you, your boyfriend and your baby Good luck!

[KeepOnDreaming]

If you two decide that you don't want to keep it, then I think you should put him up for adoption. Someone else would love to have it. But, whatever floats your boat. Like everyone else said, it's completely your decision!

[phoebery]

Hey,
Before you make a decision i would like to say, there are 3 options and 9 months to make that option, most people want to make a choice straight away, but i know so many people who have had an abortion, personally i could never go for this idea, not only because i have been raised to disagree but because it is my body, and i don't know if my body could deal physically with the stress when my brain in dealing with the same amount mentally, adoption, i would look at, sometimes this is the best option for both you and the baby, but one thing i would say is making it an open adoption, because of your preference towards keeping the baby, don't be embarrassed to say you are unable to care for the baby if that is how you are feeling, you are no less better a mum just because you are being honest with yourself about the difficulties of raising a child while you still feel like a child, and of course, keeping the baby, personally i know that if i were in your shoes i would be looking at an adoption, but lets face it, i would WANT to keep the baby because that is what feels most natural to me, but if you are going to keep the baby i would make sure that you will always have a support system around you, make sure you are okay with giving up your social life just for a small amount of time until you can establish a routine, and make sure you are okay to have someone you can always talk to, as well as make sure, if you are to keep the baby, that you do research into getting your school stuff prepared to be taken home, and help with childcare and correspondance schooling if necessary...just know that whatever decision you make,

though you may not know me, i fully support you with ANY decision you make, everyone makes a different decision and it depends on whether they are honest with themselves, and last but not least, if you choose to go with adoption, i would just make sure you fully warn the people you are going to gift your child to that you were originally thinking of keeping the baby, and that you still may consider this..

LOTS OF LOVE FROM ME, ps i am 15 too, and if you EVER need to talk, i am free to be messaged, i hope this helped

xxxxooooxxxoooxoxoxox

[XxMallyPrydexX]

I wouldn't keep it hun... at least not until you're sure that it's what you want to do and it will be born into an evnvironment where it will be loved. I think you should give it a chance at a better life and put it up for adoption... but that's just my opinion. It's really up to you and the father to decide this for yourself. <3 Take care

[Unsure]

If you are considering keeping the baby at all I would eliminate abortion as an option. If you feel at all like you could possibly handle keeping it then I think you would seriously regret an abortion I know many people do afterward. But if you also have serious doubts about your ability to provide the baby with the kind of life you think they should have then I would say adoption is your best bet. Like someone else said you can arrange an open adoption and can still be in your baby's life but not be a parent. That is my opinion, but this is a decision you need to make, you have some time to think about it, just make sure your decision is something you can live with.

[California]

When it comes down to it, it is your decision. I personally would no abort the child because that is against my views as a person. There's so many couples out there that would be blessed to have your child because they can't have their own, if you chose adoption you would be giving them the gift of a life. Some people can handle abortion others can't and they live with guilt and a dark cloud over their head of what could of been for their whole life. I would choice whats best for yourself, and something you can live with. Also remember with adoptions you can have an open adoption where you can still be a part of that child's life.

[Parenta]

Hi
Abortion means to lost their pregnancy due to some complications as well in organic changes in the body,yet commonly it is seems to be as tackle it wrongly,

so it should not adopted in the life as usual .