problem

[spenne]

I really really really want to get pregnant even though i'm only 16, I have not had sex before, I have someone who wants to have sex with me, but i'm sacred. i've wanted a baby for like 2 years now

I dunno what to do

[snoogums]

It is best to wait to get pregnant until you have a stable relationship with someone as well as a stable job and usually that doesn't happen until you at least finish high school. If you have sex with someone it should be because you really love them and you want to not because you want to have a baby. Imagine how much that could mess up a kid if their dad is not in the picture? And if you don't have a good enough job to support a baby do you know someone who will help you out? Would your parents support you and your baby? And even if they would do you really want to dump that on them? A lot of girls want to have baby's even when they are young but it isn't usually the best choice. If you are with someone for a long time and you are sure that you will stay with them and they will stay with you and if you have a good job and that you could financially and emotionally support a baby then go for it because being a 13 year old mom I can't argue with that. But otherwise I would advise that you wait because I can tell you that raising a kid is very hard and it changes your life forever. You would have hardly any time for friends for quite a while and how would you still go to school? It is a lot of things to handle and did I mention that pregnancy is a bitch?

[Aletheia*]

Blue is right; having a baby at 16 is definitely not the best idea. You should bring a baby into this world because you know you can take care of a child; not because you want one. It's selfish to bring a baby into this world on those terms alone. This person you're planning on having sex with: Are you sure that they're the right person to father your child? Would they stick around if you do get pregnant? Truth is: Most likely not. You should be in a stable relationship with someone, then start thinking about having sex and having a family. Even then, just because you're in a stable relationship with someone, it doesn't mean that they'll stick around during the pregnancy and for the baby. There is WAY too much to consider here, and you aren't thinking it through. Wanting to be a parent is a completely normal and natural occurrence. However, babies cost thousands of dollars per year, and only get more expensive as they get older. Are you ready to handle that? Can you even support the expenses as a baby? Probably not. Definitely not at 16.

[Le bonheur*]

Having a baby at just 16 is not fair to you, the father, or most importantly; the baby. You should wait until you finish school, have a stable job, are in a stable relationship, and you can give your ALL to the baby.