Im 16 and i want a baby soooooo badly !!

[pinklottie]

So im 16 and i want a baby. me and my boyfriend have been going strong since september of this year. We have talked bout having a baby but he wants me to wait till i am 19 but i want oone soooooo badly. He already has a child. I dont know wat to do ??

[Amberpamber]

You've only been dating for like 2 months. Personally that's way to soon to be getting that serious in my opinion. Also, you're 16, still in school (I assume) how would you actually raise a child right now. There's so much going into having a baby and raising it. He is right you should wait till you're 19, out of school and settled down.

[Chair]

If you don't have the money or the place to raise a child do us all a favor and don't get yourself pregnant.
Also you've known the guy for 2 months and... he already has a child. Cool. Try taking care of his child and when you find have to feed yourself and your family (let's just assume you could become a family) maybe then try to have a kid.

[pinklottie]

Amberpamber thanks for the comment and no i am not in school and i dont have a job but i really do want a baby !

[LostTeen011]

May I ask why exactly you want a baby?

[pinklottie]

Cause i never wanted to do anything with ma life except be a full time mum.

[Guile]

You should think about accomplishing more! Women have fought for hundreds of years to be allowed to achieve things besides just bearing children! Why not become a Doctor, an Engineer, a Lawyer? Anyone can have a child, accomplish something!

[Samrz]

You don't want a child. It's not only unhealthy but it would take away from your life. You can't take a baby to a party and your parents/grandparents/whatever sure ain't gonna want to take care of it.

[Aletheia*]

Originally Posted by Samrz

You don't want a child. It's not only unhealthy but it would take away from your life. You can't take a baby to a party and your parents/grandparents/whatever sure ain't gonna want to take care of it.

That was a bit harsh in my opinion.

Trust me: though you aren't in school, you also don't have a job. Taking care of a baby costs thousands and thousands of dollars, and since you aren't working, this would make it very difficult for you AND your boyfriend to take care of a baby. You've also been dating for two months. Usually, a year or two is the time when you start talking about marriage and babies. Right now isn't the best time, and you have your ENTIRE LIFE to be a full time mom. Don't ruin it now when you're just beginning to enjoy your teenage years.

[pinklottie]

Thanks guys for all the comments but i dont want to do anything else but be a full time mum

[loveme_x]

...... Why wouldd you want a child at 16 with no job & you don't go to school?? & With a guy who has a kid & you've only been with him for a little while?? Is this a joke?! Ive been with my ex/baby's father for 3 years but im 4 months pregnant, 18, living at home with my mom, no job, he has no job, were not together, his parents are denying everything, and im in college & i HATE being pregnant. Me and him thought we wanted a baby too, but look where we are, idk if hes even going to school & we attend the same school! Wait until your married PLEASE!

Originally Posted by Samrz

You don't want a child. It's not only unhealthy but it would take away from your life. You can't take a baby to a party and your parents/grandparents/whatever sure ain't gonna want to take care of it.

This is not entirely true! I have nothing to my name so my mom is adopting my child until i get out on my own. I'm not a partying girl and never have been so i don't mind sitting at home with my child.

[Maloo]

Originally Posted by pinklottie

Thanks guys for all the comments but i dont want to do anything else but be a full time mum

Honey, you don't have a job. It would be cruel to bring a baby into this world that you can't afford to raise.

[pinklottie]

Thanks guys but ma boyfriend has a steady job and i am looking. but i really want one. Im not a partying girl either

[Maloo]

It doesn't matter if you're a partier or not and that your boyfriend has a sready job. One teenager's income isn't enough money to raise a child. You should stop thinking with your uterus and start thinking with your head.

[snoogums]

Okay so you want a baby. A lot of girls wan't baby's. But you have your whole life to become a full time mum. You are still so young you should think about going back to school so that if you ever needed to look after your kids yourself you would be able to get a decent job. You should also wait until you have been with your boyfriend longer. Even if being a full time mum is all you wanted to do with your life well there are other important things you need to do first in order to be A GOOD parent.

[pinklottie]

Thanks guys for all the comments and u are right i should live my life first

[nouse]

Charlotte, I'm glad you decided not to have one! Wanting a baby around our age is so typical, I went through a stage where all I thought about was having a baby. It's totally normal, just don't act on it haha

[crissy97]

i want a baby too but i am 14 in yr 9 no job n my boyfriend has asked mee to have his baby but i cant i havent had my periods and if i could have his baby i would but it would mess up going out to ur friends umm partying drinking smoking school jobs etc i think u should atleast be with him for a year or so !!!! i have been with mine for 3 years and never had sex i am still a vergin !!! hope this helped xxx feel free to pm or vm me

[Le bonheur*]

I'm glad you decided to wait to get pregnant. I've wanted a baby since I was 16 and I'm honestly glad I waited now.

[crissy97]

yes many people agree wid u

[LucyLouWho]

Did you complete high school? Or whatever the equivalent is wherever you're from? If not, do that. Then get a job, a car, and a place to live. And I would really encourage getting a college education. Open a savings account and have at least $20,000 saved for first year expenses... in case of any unexpected circumstances. Make sure you're in a long-term, committed relationship. Make sure that he actually WANTS a child. Do not push it until he's ready.

I'd say by the time you do all of that, you'll be ready to have a child. And that's definitely not going to happen overnight. It'll probably take anywhere between 2-5 years, depending on your individual situation.

Oh... And if you'd like an idea of what having a newborn is like, set your alarm clock to wake you up every HOUR during the night, from the time you go to bed until about 7:00 AM. At each hour that you wake, you have to stay up for 30 minutes and try to be as alert as possible. Honestly, that is the best way for me to describe a typical newborn's sleep schedule. If you can do that and still be wide awake during the day and in a cheerful mood, then you are amazing. lol

Honestly, wait. I know right now you really want this and it's normal to want it, but you're young and have so many opportunities ahead of you. Having a baby won't necessarily take all of those opportunities away, but it will seriously limit them.

Please just wait. It will be better for you and your future family in the long run if you prepare yourself completely financially and emotionally for the responsibility that you're asking for.

And also very importantly, be prepared to possibly raise a baby on your own... You never truly know, no matter how much you think you do, whether the father is going to stick around or not. And if you're just living on the father's income, what happens when he leaves and the baby needs things? Child support, sure... But you only get so much of that.

Build yourself up to be financially prepared for a child all on your own. You will feel so, so much better about life and like you've really done well if you can afford everything you need with your own hard work rather than relying on family or the father for money. Government assistance is in place for those who need it and it's a really great program. It's saved us several times... But I imagine it would feel really great to be able to do all of this without it.

Best wishes. I really hope you reconsider and wait. It'll make it that much better whenever you do finally have children.

[pinklottie]

Thank you everyone for all the great comments and i have deicied to wait and ma partner agreed with me And lucylouwho I did complete school

[crissy97]

soo u r gonna wait

[pinklottie]

Yh i am going to wait

[Jubilation]

I'm glad you decided to wait! Becoming a young parent can be very stressful, and it really isn't fair to raise a child if you cannot provide for it, or if you're not financial stable.

Most teenagers go through those stages, I know I've definitely gone through the stage of wanting a little me - just watch 16 and pregnant and it makes all of those feelings disappear.

At the time, it seems like a great idea but in the future, you'll thank yourself for waiting!

[abandoning]

I personally think it's natural for girls to want children. I wanted babies when I was young, it was the only thing I wanted to do... EVER!

Now I am a mother, and I LOVE it.. But I am glad I didn't get pregnant at 16.
Waiting is always better, you know more and you have more knowledge in life.

[pinklottie]

Thanks everyone for all the comments

[Kevmezz]

Glad to hear your waiting just enjoy the time with your b/f for now and when the time is right it will happen.

Proud Daddy to one beautiful 4 year old

[pinklottie]

Aww thanks kevmezz x

[pinkflamingocarter11]

It is good to hear you decided to wait... but i tottaly know how you feel. im 15 and a freshy this year and EVER since 6th grade ive wanted a baby. But knowing what i know now i want to give my child a good life. I know i want my child to have a father and for me to have a decent house and car. i hope i can get married around 24 and can start a family. But for me, it feels like im abnormal because i CONSTINTLY think about having a baby. Even though i know the risks. But i will wait to have one.

I just wanted to let you know your not alone out there with being young and wanting a child

[delete]

Can I just say I had a big sigh of relief for you? I'm glad you're waiting since it's much more fair not only to you but to the prospective child. Maybe get a job in a daycare or afterschool program to help with kids and get your "mommy" urges out until you're "grown up" have a job, stable home life, husband/partner ect., and can truly handle the responsibility and support your child and focus all your time on children I love kids, but I definately don't want any for awhile especially after working with them. All I want is to come home, spend time with my friends or man, and chill and enjoy being a teenager without having to deal with a baby

[alliannasmomma5]

So glad you decided to wait.

Wen I was 16, I got pregnant. Tho I had not finished school, me and my bf at the time had plans to have children and it just happened. I didnt have a job or money to raise a child and my bf was going thru chemotherapy at the time, but luckily i had my parents to help me out. I had a beautiful little girl. I thought I was ready at 16 but I wasn't. I had to grow up pretty fast wen I had alliance and even tho I loved my little angel more then life itself I wouldn't recommend it to anyone under 19-20. Unfortunately I had to cope with something no parent should ever have to bare and that is having to say goodbye to their child when the angels take them to heaven. My little girl died of SIDS at 6 months old.

So please girls, wait until you can be the mom you can be. Believe me, it will be for the best in the end.

[witchita]

I totally understand how you feel about wanting a baby, last year I thought exactly the same. I had been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and everything in my life was perfect. School was nearlly over but I wasnt thinking much about college but more about a family. Ive always wanted to have a baby at a young age. I thought it was a great responsability to have. I was not certain about having one at 16 but I knew I wanted to have one around about then.
But after becoming an Auntie I sunddenly realised that actually parenting is much harder than it seems. My sister is an amazing mom who really looks after all three of her beautiful children, but then I think back to it and Its not me. Im not ready for the responability of a life.
Remember, you are only just becoming an adult yourself.
One day you will becomome an incredable parent.
Howeve parents always have to change their usual lives:
Socially
Mentally
Physically

Though I do believe you have free will and can therefore detrmine decissions
I am pleased you did decide to wait as it is a lot of presure to put on a 16 year old. I hope that one day you can have the family you wanted

XXX

[teddscau]

How are you going to buy a house?

Can you spend over $10,000 a year on the kid?

Yearly expenses: http://www.settlement.org/sys/faqs_d...faq_id=4001245

It is not easy to provide a specific monthly expense for you and your family. Living expenses vary from city to city in Canada. Some household spending surveys estimate that the average family will spend C$55,000 - C$65,000 per year.
Different stores charge different prices for food, clothing, and other things you need to live. You may want to ask your relatives, friends, or coworkers where they shop for good prices.
There are also special services or stores in many communities where you can find items for free or a low price.
When looking at monthly expenses, you'll want to budget carefully. A budget allows you to manage your money, planning your expenses from month to month, and helps you to live within your financial means.
Many community agencies can help you find information about living expenses and budgeting. To find help in your area, go to Services Near Me.




CAN YOU AFFORD SPENDING OVER $50,000 A YEAR?!?!

Can you afford to send your kid through university/college?

I know you decided to wait, but I just wanted to make sure you understood how bad an idea it is to have a child.

EDIT:

Oops, forgot to go over child birth. LABOR FOR OVER TEN HOURS! Excruciating contractions! The birth itself! The pushing, the tear, the RIPPING, the thing tearing it's way into the world! Oww, oww, owwwwwww!

[CutewitouttheE14]

Originally Posted by pinklottie

So im 16 and i want a baby. me and my boyfriend have been going strong since september of this year. We have talked bout having a baby but he wants me to wait till i am 19 but i want oone soooooo badly. He already has a child. I dont know wat to do ??

coming from a teen parent, i suggest you wait until you have a steady full time job and are mentally ready to handle a baby. other than that i think its too soon for you guys to be thinking about kids.