screwed!!!

[rachael66]

I took 4 tests and they all come back positive that am pregnant. I can't be pregnant and i definantly don't want to have a baby, especially considering i am not with the father. How can i do this while keep a secret i don't want a parent lecture which am sure to get if they find out, but won't they see the signs???

[Amour ♡]

Hmm, well if I were you I would simply go see a doctor ASAP, it's your best bet on sorting out your options and such. It's important that if you want to go ahead with the pregnancy or feel you should that you have a good hard think about it all - raising a child is not easy, at any age. Good luck x

[shoesandglitter]

I agree with Brighter, definetly see a doctor asap to decide what's best not only for you, but also for the baby!

[Aletheia*]

Obviously, you can't hide a pregnancy forever. Soon, your body will change, IE: Your belly will grow as the baby grows and the months go on. That's not something you can hide for 9 months. Also, they may begin to notice other changes in you like behavior. You may OR may not experience morning sickness, and unless you can vomit quietly, they may notice this as well.

Your best bet would be to contact your/a doctor to talk about your options. You have 3 options. They are:
1. Keeping the baby: Seeing as this is something you don't want, I'm not going to get into it. I don't know how old you are seeing as your profile doesn't mention it, but I would think you're aware of how expensive a baby can be. You can use Google to search calculators to get an estimate of just how much a baby costs a year.
2. Adoption: This would mean going through with the pregnancy, but once you have the child, you give up your rights as the baby's parent. You'll go through an adoption agency, and they'll help you find a suitable family for your child, you'll get to meet the family in person and when the time comes, you'll hand over your baby for them to raise. There are 2 types of adoptions: an open and a closed. Open Adoption is where you'll have contact with the adoptive family and your child. You'll be able to receive phone calls, e-mails, letters and photo updates of the baby as they progress. An open adoption is completely up to the adoptive parents. Some are more open about those kinds of adoptions while others would prefer a closed adoption. A closed adoption is just how it sounds. You'll have no contact with the child until they reach adult age, and wish to try to find you. Or before then, with the permission of their parents. This may be considered if you don't want to care for a child on your own, but this would also mean telling your parents that you're pregnant. Often with adoptions, the family you choose sometimes pay for medical expenses seeing as it will be their child. Something to keep in mind.
3. Abortion. An abortion can be done easily within the first trimester of the pregnancy. So, from the time you know you're pregnant up until you hit the 3-4 month mark. After that, you'll have a hard time finding a doctor who will perform one as some doctor's believe that the fetus then becomes a baby after the first trimester, therefore making the procedure a lot riskier for you. It's not impossible, but also not probable.

Your best bet would be to contact your local Planned Parenthood or the like. You can find out information about the clinic here: www.plannedparenthood.org
PP offers counseling services for you to help you choose which option is for you, and to help you get through that process. If you decide you'd like an adoption, they may refer you to an adoption agency they've worked with in the past. If you decide you'd like an abortion, they may perform it there depending on their services, or they may refer you to a clinic that does.

After your decision has been made, I would also ask the counselors or doctors there about getting on some type of birth control to make sure this doesn't happen again. There are several forms of contraception to choose from, a lot of which you can find out about on the Planned Parenthood website. You could also check OUR list in the Sex & Puberty forum here on TeenHelp. This will help prevent an unwanted pregnancy in the future.

I hope this helped, and I wish you the best of luck with whatever option you choose.

Take care.

[PutYourHeartsUp]

I've known people that hid their pregnancy from even their parents for the full 9 months. But it didn't work out because eventually their water broke. And it's kind of hard to hide a baby. I would visit your doctor.

[Le bonheur*]

I highly suggest you don't keep this a secret from your parents. They may find out from symptoms you may get, from someone else, or they may just realize something's off with you. It's really hard to keep a secret as big as this. I'd think if they found out any other way, they'd be disappointed that you didn't go to them. I also believe it's important that you communicate with your parents, loved ones, and possibly a doctor/counselor so that you can make the very best decision for you and your baby.

[rachael66]

thanks for all the replys it has really helped me, i dont think keeping it a secret is going to work considering am having a hard time discuizing the fact i dont want any alcohol especially on new years eve just one sip didnt go down well. But just wanted to say thankyou for replying to me.

[Aletheia*]

No problem, hun. That's what we're here for!

If you're having a hard time discussing it with anyone, why not try to contact Planned Parenthood and see if they can help you find ways to tell the people around you, like your parents and the baby's father. Their counseling services are truly wonderful, and they're there to help you during this difficult time.

If you ever need anything else, don't hesitate!

[msfsteven]

Sorry you have to go through this But you will get through it.
Try talking to other pregnant people. Surround yourself with other opinions and support.
Just don't hide it, they won't hate you forever for getting pregnant, and they can't hold it against you.
Ask them for support and to help you, tell them how you feel. They should understand.

[escape_thereal_world]

Hey, you can do this. I know it seems like a lot, and it is. But Planned Parenthood can definitely help and most of their services are free and everything is confidential.

Feel free to let us know what happens. You do have options. Also feel free to PM Shannon or me. We are both here to help

[purplekc95]

Racheal, it's best to tell the truth. They'll be mad but it's better for the long run; trust me.

[rachael66]

thanks for the help everyone, just trying to find the right moment to tell them but it never comes but my cousins just announced she is pregnant so think am gonna wait a while longer

[Aletheia*]

I feel as if this thread has given a decent amount of advice, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread.

OP, if you'd like the thread reopened, feel free to PM me or Kelly, the other forum moderator and we'll gladly reopen it for you. Or, you can always begin new thread(s) for all your pregnancy & childcare advice!