well am I infertile I keep losing my baby?

[kidsfromthehouse1]

I have had 2 miscarriages. My dad sexually abused me. From about 6 to 12. I was pregnantt at 12. He had said he'd do a home abortion on me if I were pregnant. I was 3 weeks later and my boobs were sore. I'm sure that I was pregnant. Even that young I knew anyway I bled heavily I had clumps for 2 weeks. I had horrible cramps. I thought I was going to die... Well I ran away from home was living on the street and then with a guy who would make me do stuff with different creepy guys. I got pregnant. And I was going to keep it I just wanted a baby to love... Anyway I miscarried at 6 weeks. I'm now living with my parent's sister. I'm not sure I'm pregnant now but even if I am am I likely infertile? Advice?

[leavemealone]

I don't think your infertile because you were able to become pregnant before, but I think that its just a matter of chance if you get a miscarriage. It could also have something to do with the stressful environment that you are subjected to. Have you tried contacting the police or a child care system who could help you? Staying in that house will do nothing but bad things to you. And if you want a baby, you should really wait. If you have a baby at 13, carrying the child is not only dangerous to you but also to the baby. If the baby is born, he/she would most likely be very sick or deformed and only live a few weeks for maybe a year or two. You are not old enough for that kind of responsibility. You should wait until you find the right guy, and until you are over 20. Right now you need to focus on finding a better living environment so that when you do get older and decide to have a baby, that baby will grow up in a loving home with a loving environment. Please please PLEASE contact someone that could help you besides your parents. You may love them, but if your father is raping you, he doesn't love you. Hes using you and you deserve better from someone who you're supposed to look up to. Stay strong hun

[Iris. ♥]

First of all, I'm sorry that you have had to struggle with all of this. I know that doesn't change anything, but it's all I can think to say.

I don't think you're infertile, since you did become pregnant. Both times you miscarried, it may have been because your body was rejecting the baby. At such a young age, being pregnant could have harmed you or the baby. The body is an amazing thing and it may have reacted to that to save you from further harm. Also, please find a way out of the situation you're in. You need to find a healthier environment to live in. Talk to a professional about your situation. If your dad is still sexually abusing you, report it. Even living with a close friend would be a huge improvement. Please just try to find a place where you will be safe from harm, okay?

Message me if you want to talk.

[Aletheia*]

I doubt you're infertile considering you've been pregnant before. We can't say for sure what MADE you miscarry. Not even doctors could explain that to you. It just happens, and when it does, there is nothing that can be done to stop it. You're young, which might have a factor in why you've miscarried twice (though again, I could be completely wrong). Your body just might not be able to carry a child right now. I'm sorry that you've had to go through this, but if you decide to engage in sexual activity from now on, make sure some form of birth control is used, like a condom. You've had two miscarried children that haven't gotten proper medical attention. Sometimes, medical attention isn't necessary. This website will give you more information on when it IS necessary: http://www.labelledame.com/dandc.html

Take care of yourself.

[kidsfromthehouse1]

I live with my mom's sister. I've not been abused by him about 2yrs. I ran away I'd never go back there. If I'm pregnant it's by a guy I recently met. I never want to have to be in those situations no matter what... I'll try my best to never be in those sitiations. I never even talk to my parents...

[Aletheia*]

It's wonderful that you've gotten yourself out of those situations. If you think you might be pregnant, I would take a pregnancy test. If it's been two weeks, you could get an accurate result on a test, and you could figure out your options from there. If you ever have any more questions, feel free to PM me

[kidsfromthehouse1]

I'm a day late. Even if I am pregnant I'm scared I'll just lose it like last time. Idk

[Aletheia*]

A day is hardly anything to worry about. Periods aren't meant to come at the exact same time every month, ESPECIALLY at your age when they are new to your body and still regulating. If your period is a week OR more late, then I'd worry.

[kidsfromthehouse1]

it's not new I've had mine 4 years actually I'm almost 14 btw... Never have missed my period for 2 days.. It comes exactly 24 days at the same time... That's why it's out of character for me...

[Aletheia*]

That's okay. I got mine at 11 as well, and mine didn't regulate until about 14-15. Still, a day is hardly anything to worry about. Wait another week or so, and take a test.

[escape_thereal_world]

Shannon is right. When I first started my period, I was 9. It was regular until I was about 14. Since then I have had irregular periods. Sometimes missing my period for several months (have seen a doctor, by the way). Birth control helped regulate it. But I'm off bc now and it's skipping some months again.

Basically, periods aren't as predictable as we may sometimes think! I would suggest waiting a week and taking a pregnancy test.

As for the miscarriages, it could have been the environment you were subjected to and the stress. Or it could have been random.

[Revolution]

^^ For real, I'm like Shannon and Kelly, mine got regular than went back irregular until I was on birth control, so things happen. I'm SO sorry you had to deal with these traumatic events in your life. Whether or not you are pregnant, I really recommend you begin seeing a counselor about the trauma with your father and the man. Being sexually abused, if repressed, can have some serious consequences. The stress from it can actually very likely induce a miscarriage. So I would recommend get yourself help, and get yourself to a mental state in which you would be ready to have a child.

If you end up pregnant, remember all of your options, and do what is right for you. If you are not pregnant, I really would recommend you get on birth control. It makes your periods light, and it also helps protect against these kind of incidents. Good luck, please feel free to talk to me about what happened. Remember: You are not alone.