Does abuse have anything to do with the lgbt community?

[Hellokitty14]

I'm wondering because I was sexually mutilated when I was 5 by a really weird creepy psychopath. It was pretty traumatic still have the injuries from it and I don't remember the incident at all. I think it was too hard to process at that age so I blocked it out. But still they think it has to do with how I think I'm a girl. When it doesn't I used to look to my sister and mom thinking I'd grow up to be like them and before I went to school I actually really didn't know I was a boy because I had long hair like my sister and mom I didn't even know why I was set apart differently from them. I've always felt this way. But when I went to school I just was more aware that I felt I fit with the female populations and its always been hard for me to really recognized the difference between me and a normal girl as my parents would say. They know I have ks but they just focus on the fact that I am academically challenged because of it. But that its because I need to deal with what happened which I really don't want to deal with something I don't remember nor do I want to remember. But as long as I don't see a psych for that issue they don't care about my opinion. It seems. But really it doesn't usually have anything to do with each other does it?

[Ennui.]

Hey there,

Sexuality and gender identity are things you are born with. While abuse can't cause this to change, for instance it can't turn a female into a lesbian, it can trigger a person to think about sexuality and gender identity more than before, which eventually could lead to them determining their sexuality or gender identity. Since you don't remember what happened to you, I don't think the incident had an affect on your gender identity. You're right in thinking that you've always felt this way and I don't think what happened to you caused this.

Stay strong!

-Dez

[Hellokitty14]

I don't know how to convince my parents and ease their assumptions on this though...