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I'm confused - April 19th 2017, 01:05 PM

So, Im pretty sure im pansexual anyways thats not the problem the problem is wondering if i might be demisexual. I put a lot of thought into whether i might be a demisexual. I know what it means. But I wonder if anyone can helo me out probably explain it more to me on what it means to be a demisexual.. and if i might be demisexual does it mean i can be pansexual to? im just confused..

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Re: I'm confused - April 19th 2017, 01:47 PM

Hey there,

I've spent a lot of my time pondering my own sexuality and the one thing I've come to realise is that you don't need to fit neatly into one label or another. Demisexuality, as far as I know, is to be sexually attracted to people who you have a strong attachment to emotionally. Pansexuality is to have no preference over sex in terms of who you are sexually attracted to. I don't see a reason why you can't identify with both as demisexuality does not constrain you to one or the other either. You can have no gender preference but still require that emotional connection first.

The main thing you need to consider is how you feel comfortable identifying. Labels are made by people, so they can be flexible depending on what they mean to you anyway. It's a complicated thing, so I hope this has helped and you find a way to identify which makes you comfortable! If you need anything else feel free to shoot me a message.
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Re: I'm confused - April 19th 2017, 07:19 PM

You can definitely be a demipan. Demisexuality is considered under the asexual spectrum and it means that your sexual attraction is based on strong emotional bond with someone. If you feel that fits you, and pansexuality does too, go for it!

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Re: I'm confused - April 30th 2017, 07:27 AM

Hey there,

The thing about sexuality is that it's fluid. You don't have to fit into only one identity and, if there is only one that makes sense to you, you still don't have to fit into it neatly or completely. Sexuality isn't a box, it's a spectrum.

That being said, I'm fairly certain that it's definitely possible to be pansexual and demisexual. Demisexuals are attracted to those that they feel a strong emotional connection with, whereas pansexuals simply have no preference when it comes to the biological sex and/or gender identity of their partner. It's entirely possible for you to have no gender preference, but still require that emotional connection in order to feel sexual attraction to someone.

Remember that you don't have to choose a label right away. Whatever you're feeling or experiencing is legitimate and valid, whether there's a term that fits it perfectly or not.

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