Asexuality

Sprite-1 · **Asexuality -** March 21st 2021, 01:55 PM

Asexuality as some may already know, "is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity" which is quoted from Wikipedia

My twin sisters recognise themselves as asexual and yet, are so happy and content with each other that they can merrily cuddle on the sofa in front of the fire, or hold hands as they sit on the quay watching the yachts roll in. And this is how Ted and I have been, so far. Having met in The Hole 4 years ago we've stayed close together, and we know we are meant for each other.

I started my menses at 9, and Ted was as understanding as he was careful around me. Content in each other's company we feel that our sexuality as it stands, recognizes as asexual, just like my sisters. Yet, some people in town who see us four together wrongly assume we're a bunch of weirdos. Wrong. Like many asexuals, we're comfortable and happy and content all rolled into one.

Maybe at some future time when I reach 16 and Ted, adult at 18+, we might feel differently. But as we are today, we had the same feelings of love and commitment these last four albeit brutal years. Except we are overcoming the screams from the past, but that's another story for another time; just not here.

Ted doesn't have a roaming eye any more than my sisters. Being asexual, we don't. So I want to encourage anyone who might be wondering how they feel about their sexuality, why not visit their LGBT offices in their town or city. Because there is plenty of great advice from more experienced people.

I have years ahead of me yet, as do all my family. Except what ,matters is the now. Not tomorrow. No need fretting or worrying. Just be, as you are because in time, you will find your sexuality slot into place.

Ted and I are affectionate but not sexual. "Maybe in years to come when we're older", he wisely suggested, "we'll agree to feel different". What matters is the now.

I just wanted to share this, especially for those who already know and, are comfortable with their asexuality. You, like us, are loved.

I wish you all a happy and contented day.

Everglow. · **Re: Asexuality -** March 21st 2021, 08:51 PM

I am glad you have found a label which works for you right now, and it is true that over time this might change and one day you might feel like a different word suits you and your circumstances. Especially as you are both still young, which means there's no pressure to conform to any kind of label or behaviour. It's great that you're both being safe and understanding to each other and your needs. I am asexual myself, and I know that finding a little slot within the LGBTQ+ acronym is very validating.

Sprite-1 · **Re: Asexuality -** March 21st 2021, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Everglow.

I am glad you have found a label which works for you right now, and it is true that over time this might change and one day you might feel like a different word suits you and your circumstances. Especially as you are both still young, which means there's no pressure to conform to any kind of label or behaviour. It's great that you're both being safe and understanding to each other and your needs. I am asexual myself, and I know that finding a little slot within the LGBTQ+ acronym is very validating.

That was so helpful and encouraging. Thank you, very much!

Sprite-1 · **Re: Asexuality -** March 22nd 2021, 10:57 AM

Everglow, Wendi sent me this article link which she said would be useful.

(The Guardian) The growing asexuality movement

Everglow. · **Re: Asexuality -** March 22nd 2021, 11:58 AM

Thanks for the link.

I have heard of Yasmin Benoit before. Interesting read.

Sprite-1 · **Re: Asexuality -** March 22nd 2021, 05:52 PM

Glad you like it.