Appointment with a gender therapist =\

[That Sullen Piñata]

Right...
For those of you who don't know, I'm transgendered, out to everyone in my family buy my dad. I'm pretty much a full-time cross-dresser tbh (even in school and all that), but not on hormones or anything.

I have an appointment on the seventeenth of february this gender therapist to see whether I'm right to start hormones, and I'm just worried about what'd happen and how vital it is that I come out to my dad at this point ^^

Thanks for reading my somewhat convoluted and confusing post... xx

[ILoveMayonnaise]

K i dont get it.........r u a guy?

[ILoveMayonnaise]

oh btw whats a gender therapist?? is it a person who uses sex as a therapy or something?

[skylight]

Originally Posted by ILoveMayonnaise

oh btw whats a gender therapist?? is it a person who uses sex as a therapy or something?

I would guess it's for Transgendered, and transsexual People that need help and counseling?

[PhoenixAlive]

@OP: Congratulations on finding a gender therapist! I hope the appointment goes well. Could you give us an update after and say how it went? I'm trying to find a gender therapist in my area right now, so I'd be really interested in how it goes.

From the research I've done, I think that you're going to have to come out to your Dad soon. Definitely before you get started on hormones. I don't know if its the same with your hormones, but I know that with T, the changes start getting noticeable within weeks. Also, coming out to your family is part of the process of transitioning, which I'm sure you know.

Good luck and I hope it works out!

@ Lola: I think the OP identifies as female.

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Originally Posted by ILoveMayonnaise

K i dont get it.........r u a guy?

oy...
um, maybe try and do some Research before you ask questions like that or make remarks as they sound a bit ignorant. use dictionary.com or wikipedia to find out. i believe the OP also identifies as a female.

And as for the OP- its good you found a therapist and i have to agree with Phoenix Alive about coming out. Good luck!

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

Hey there,

I think it is great that you have found a therapist. I think that is pretty awesome .

Do you think you could talk to this therapist about your concerns about coming out to your father? In my opinion you shouldn't come out until you are ready, you know? But, I think coming out is a very important step to take.

If you have told other people in your family maybe you could talk to them about coming out to your dad as well? See what they have to say about the whole situation. They might be able to give you some good advice based on what they know of your dad.

Please hang in there and if you need anything feel free to pm me.

Jenna

[QuackerJackWoop]

Hey :]

I think it's great that you have already come out to most of your family and I definitely think that the next stage is for you to talk to your Dad about this - but only talk to him when you feel ready to do so.

I would think that if the therapist is accessing you to see if you are ready to start undertaking hormones then he/she will simply check that you are OK health wise, and also check that you are mentally prepared for the effects of the hormones.

However, if you are to start taking hormones, then would I be right in thinking that your Dad may notice a physical difference in you? If so would it be better to come out to him before he notices?

I'm sure everything will go fine, and feel free to re-post with any queries that you have.
Take Care,
Claire x

[That Sullen Piñata]

Thanks for your advice everyone (:
Now I just need to start wondering what sort of questions they're likely to ask me ^^

With regards to coming out to my dad, I know I have to some time soon, but it's not easy when he's as irrational as he is and is prone to inconsistency at the best of times... but it's something I'll need to do anyhow (although, since he's unobservant enough not to notice already, I'm not sure he'd notice if I actually started hormones...)

Thaaaaaaaaanks again (': xx

[ArchangelMaria]

Are you a cross-dresser or a transsexual? Sorry, the post totally confused me.

[EightEleven91]

Your Gender part suggests your a guy wanting to be a girl.
Your pic looks like you are a girl! I would NEVER of guessed you were actually a guy. Good going. Good luck with the therapist!
I wont go on about making sure your 100% sure as its a VERY serious thing so yeah, do whatever you thinks right and enjoy it!

[That Sullen Piñata]

Thank you (: I've been told I pass well... which is a good thing some times but then it also means I can't go into the guys' toilets when I'm out which is bloody annoying at times ¬¬

I'll keep y'all updated as to what happens after the 17th... wish me luck :'D
x


EDIT: I really can't pull off saying "y'all"...

[Elle.]

with regards to coming out to your dad, i know you've said that he hasn't noticed.. but are you sure about this?. because me may already have a pretty good idea that you're trans.. i think it would be good to tell him, but maybe hold off until you've at least had the first meeting with this therapist.. i'm sure they'll be able to give you some valuable advice as to how best to deal with your dad and any other issues you're facing. good luck with it!

[That Sullen Piñata]

I'm fairly sure he hasn't noticed... I mean, as far as I'm aware he's convinced I'm perfectly straight... he was giving me 'advice' about girls the other day...
Thank you (': x

[ftme]

how'd your appointment go? check out this link for some good information on how to come out to your parents. it's also a good idea to have some educational materials present when you come out to your father.

pflag [dot] org/fileadmin/user_upload/TNET/Coming_Out_Trans. pdf

[That Sullen Piñata]

Thanks for the link, I'll be checking that later!

As for the appointment, in all honesty it was rather dull, but thank you for asking (:. I can understand why she asked these questions, but it was just mostly about self-esteem, how long I've felt this way and who knows, which wasn't really what I was hoping to talk about (she steered the conversation).
We've got another appointment together in three weeks where we're discussing future plans and things like that, hopefully that will put my mind at ease a little (: x

[Elle.]

sounds positive though! don't be afraid to speak up in the next meeting and discuss any topics that are on your mind. i hope it goes well!

[ftme]

that's great. i'm glad to hear it went well. did you get to mention that your father doesn't know that you're trans? i'm guessing she inquired about who you're out to.