thought i figured it out?

[meganlzbth]

so, i'm not really sure how to start this one...

i've been questioning (re-questioning?) my sexuality lately. last year, i came out as bisexual to my parents and a few close friends. i thought i had everything figured out and was happy for a while, but i'm starting to question it again... this time whether i'm bisexual or fully gay. like, the more i thought about it, the more i started to think that i was only attracted to girls. but there are a few guys who i'm also really attracted to. when i try to think about being in a relationship with one of them though, it like, doesn't interest me really. i can't really see myself with a boyfriend, maybe because i've never had one, but i can see myself with a girlfriend, and maybe because i have had one. it almost feels like last year again...where i'm just going back and forth and back and forth. like, one day i'll think oh, i only like girls, but the next i'll think, but he was cute and i like him a lot or something like that

i'm not asking for anyone to answer or tell me either way, i guess i'm just looking for a little support, maybe some thoughts on this...just tryin to figure myself out here

[aranel05]

Hey,

I am in pretty much the same situation as you. I came out as bisexual, and was happy about it. Then I started flip-flopping between "am I bisexual, or actually a lesbian." Eventually I just gave up trying to define my sexuality, and figured if I found myself attracted to someone, I would be attracted to someone. Over the last year, I basically experimented with my feelings and now I am fully sure that I am bisexual. I feel that the harder people try to define themselves, the harder it ends up being. For some reason just sitting back and allowing life to keep moving around you allows you to find the best answer, in some cases.

[DeadlySin]

Whoever said you had to be gay, straight, or bi?
You can be what you like or inbetween.
You never have to be fully this or fully that.
Just be you. No need to label yourself. =)
If you like girls one day and boys the next it's not big deal.
If you decide ohhh I really like girls and boys just aren't right for me then go with it.
You don't have to stick to one, silly. =)
Just go with the flow and how you feel, no need to get worked up over what you think you are.

[EightEleven91]

Originally Posted by DeadlySin

Whoever said you had to be gay, straight, or bi?
You can be what you like or inbetween.
You never have to be fully this or fully that.
Just be you. No need to label yourself. =)
If you like girls one day and boys the next it's not big deal.
If you decide ohhh I really like girls and boys just aren't right for me then go with it.
You don't have to stick to one, silly. =)
Just go with the flow and how you feel, no need to get worked up over what you think you are.

I find it patronizing when people say "who says you have to be this or that" because quite clearly, this topic would play on your mind, you wouldnt be able to just think yeah, i dont have to say what I am to myself or anybody else.
Obviously if you go from liking guys and girls.. to suddenly only getting feelings for girls, you'd feel like you arent sure, like you really wanna know what you actually are.

Maybe thats just me, but thats what I'd be like, I wouldnt be able to just sit and say "well, nevermind what im into today."

Rant over!

[meganlzbth]

Originally Posted by DeadlySin

Whoever said you had to be gay, straight, or bi?
You can be what you like or inbetween.
You never have to be fully this or fully that.
Just be you. No need to label yourself. =)
If you like girls one day and boys the next it's not big deal.
If you decide ohhh I really like girls and boys just aren't right for me then go with it.
You don't have to stick to one, silly. =)
Just go with the flow and how you feel, no need to get worked up over what you think you are.

i was kind of thinking that to myself, and it really is like, back and forth from day to day almost...it's really hard sometimes though. like some days i think why did i ever even think i was gay? and other days, i'm perfectly fine with being attracted to girls. i try to just forget about labels and go with the flow, like you said, but i feel so...i dont even know sometimes...not undecided, but i feel like i'm kinda fighting with myself. my whole life basically, i wasn't exactly against gays, but i guess i was brought up to not accept it, that it was wrong. but love is love, regardless of "social norms"

i'm hoping when i go off to college people will be a little more accepting and not care so much. like, in high school i feel like i can't really come out to a lot of people because i know people would talk and i really don't need that at this point. i'm already a bit self-conscious and have somewhat low self-esteem. i'm trying, though