"Obsessed with being gay"

[JonahIzPotato]

People think I'm "obsessed with being gay." You know the Day of Silence? Yeah, they've silenced me. I used to walk around with my gay pride button and my sticekrs on my binder, until people started getting annoyed. Apparently I'm shoving it in their face and being obsessed and... blah. Any ideas what I can do so I can be proud of who I am, I can wear my button maybe, and not have them have issues with it? (I'm at school right now, trying to kill time :P)

[Boobies]

It is annoying when people are flaunting it in your face, it's good to be proud, just annoying when people keep telling you, or as I said earlier, flaunting it. Though I must admit that by the sound of it you weren't shoving it in anyones faces.
Just wear the badge perhaps?

[Nenya]

It doesn't sound like you were intentionally showing off but I can see how some people might see it that way.

Just wear the badge. What kind of stickers were they? If they were obvious gay pride ones like with the words 'gay pride' on then maybe tone it down a little by being more subtle with rainbow stickers and things?

[BabyIndia]

I Agree with what some of you saying but in another sense why should he have too?

It's his life and he shouldn't be silenced about being gay and proud. asaorry but if I were you, I'd just wear em

[baseballgirl]

Who cares what they think. If you want to wear a gay pride button then wear it man. and the same with the stickers. and i dont think that your obsessed with being gay. really just dont change for no one, be yourself.

[Invert]

Unfortunately a lot of straight people have a small amount of patience before they claim you are flaunting it. Like holding my girlfriend's hand down the street is flaunting it . But obviously all those girls with Edward Twilight merch aren't flaunting their heterosexuality. There's very little you can do other be almost entirely silent about being gay, as its usually not about what you are doing, but about something internal to them. Things are changing though.

Do you care if they think your obsessed? Really? I mean you know the truth. Stick to what you want.

[lea-x-fallen]

if you want to wear them! be proud, but dont try to shove it in people's faces, so maybe not have obvious stickers, as to some people they can easily offended-annoying but be proud!

[AmethystDrew]

I think I agree with the general commenters above - the stickers might be overdoing it a bit, but the button's hardly flaunting it.

If you want to be a bit nasty about it to make a point (meaning I'd only really say to do this if it's a friend who is on you for 'flaunting' it), maybe ask them to stop flaunting their heterosexuality if they make /any/ mention of it. It might be enough to make them stop and think. =b

[Invert]

How the hell are stickers flaunting something? That's absurd. Maybe if I intentionnally walked right up to a homophobe and started to make out with a girl a foot from their face, that's flaunting it, because its intentional (though I'd still argue justifable), but stickers? Give me a break.

[losing touch.]

who cares? do what you want. it doesn't sound like you're shoving it in their face. if you want to have a gay pride button and stickers on your binder then theres nothing wrong with that. some people are so ridiculous, ignore people who are giving you shit for it. you're not hurting anyone, jeez.

[MadPoet]

I used to sit in front of a girl at school who had pictures of the Jonas Brothers taped all over every single one of her binders. In middle school, girls would cut out pictures of "hot guys" and tape them in every inch of their locker. Ever seen a crowd of girls looking at a guy and giggling "OMG! He is SO hot!" ?

If people can be "obsessed" with showing off how in love they are with men they find attractive, then you have every right to show off your pride. No one would think twice if they saw a girl carrying a hot guy plastered binder, but if a gay guy carries one that is similar, or one that is decorated with gay pride symbols, then it's the end of the world.

You have the right to let people know how you feel about homosexuality, so you might as well do it. It's your life, and it's your beliefs. Don't let their opinions affect you. I bet there's a lot of people at that school that would love to see how proud you are of your sexuality. Just keep being you.

[Wallflower.]

Be yourself and do what you want to do. the stickers aren't hurting anyone, you're proud to be who you are and that's a good thing. People should not dictate what you choose to do; you're proud to be gay and that's great! If someone has a problem with who you are then they aren't worth your time or your worries. Keep being yourself and to hell with the people who don't like it.

[Algernon]

That is the biggest problem I have with Gay Pride, they FLAUNT and SHOUT it to the world. I'm gay! And I'm proud! You don't see other people going around yelling, I'm straight! Go me! It's annoying when anyone flauts something about themselves, especially sexuality, not matter which one it is. I like the gays that are proud, but silent about it. You can just tell they know who they are, and aren't afraid of what anyone thinks anymore. You can just see a peace in their eyes.

[PhoenixAlive]

Originally Posted by Algernon

That is the biggest problem I have with Gay Pride, they FLAUNT and SHOUT it to the world. I'm gay! And I'm proud! You don't see other people going around yelling, I'm straight! Go me! It's annoying when anyone flauts something about themselves, especially sexuality, not matter which one it is. I like the gays that are proud, but silent about it. You can just tell they know who they are, and aren't afraid of what anyone thinks anymore. You can just see a peace in their eyes.

I sort of agree with this.

Some will say that people show heterosexual pride all the time, just by being able to hold hands with their loved ones and not be afraid of discrimination. However, I see a distinct difference between this and wearing pins, having stickers, and all, specifically saying that they are straight.

Just to get this straight, I don't have a problem with members of the gay community holding hands with their loved ones, or having pictures of them in their lockers, or anything like that. All of the things that straight couples take for granted, gay couples have the right to do, and they should exercise those rights.

Of course you have the right to wear rainbow buttons and put stickers on your binder if you want. I just don't see the point of broadcasting one's sexuality, whether it be hetero or homosexual. IMO, those buttons and stickers are very tacky and loud.

Sorry if I offended anyone. Just my point of view here.

[EightEleven91]

To be honest I dont see the reason to have stickers or badges, do you? If your shoving it in peoples faces that you're gay you are maybe asking for trouble (no, im not saying being homophobic is right) but somebody WILL say something..

We dont put stickers on saying 'Straight Pride'. Yes, people may have guys/girls who look nice on the front, you can too. But putting things like 'Gay Pride' what if I put 'White Pride' I doubt people would be happy and it would come across as racism to many. So dont shout it from the rooftops.

[cuttingsolitude]

Why should you not wear a gay pride pin and have gay pride stickers. Its ignorant to care what others think especially when they are just trying to silence you. Another thing is people who complain about people flaunting their sexuality. I don't see you complaining about people flaunting their religion by wearing a cross or other religious things. How is it any different?

[Xujhan]

Originally Posted by PhoenixAlive

I sort of agree with this.

Some will say that people show heterosexual pride all the time, just by being able to hold hands with their loved ones and not be afraid of discrimination. However, I see a distinct difference between this and wearing pins, having stickers, and all, specifically saying that they are straight.

Just to get this straight, I don't have a problem with members of the gay community holding hands with their loved ones, or having pictures of them in their lockers, or anything like that. All of the things that straight couples take for granted, gay couples have the right to do, and they should exercise those rights.

Of course you have the right to wear rainbow buttons and put stickers on your binder if you want. I just don't see the point of broadcasting one's sexuality, whether it be hetero or homosexual. IMO, those buttons and stickers are very tacky and loud.

Sorry if I offended anyone. Just my point of view here.

I agree with you in principle, but even in many parts of north america gays aren't treated equally or fairly. Acceptance of racial minorities is several decades ahead of acceptance of sexual minorities, and even that isn't perfect yet. Once a gay couple can walk down the street without anyone batting an eyelash, I imagine that gay pride - in its current incarnation at least - will fade into the background. Until then, one of the founding tenets of our society is the protection and empowerment of minorities; gay pride is simply that piece of idealism manifested.

And otherwise, as regards complaints about the "flaunting and shouting," be reasonable: having to see rainbow stickers a few times a day is not impinging on your quality of life at all. Heck, I imagine that we breeders' atrocious lack of fashion sense offends the eyes of the gay community way more than their stickers offend ours. Really, if you get upset over rainbow pins and stickers, then you were looking to get upset.

[JonahIzPotato]

Well honestly, the reason I had the stickers in the first place was I was coming out and I wanted people to see them and know I was gay. Because I was sick of people always asking me. So then people started getting annoyed that they were there, which was stupid. I dunno.

[EightEleven91]

Originally Posted by Q2Q2

Well honestly, the reason I had the stickers in the first place was I was coming out and I wanted people to see them and know I was gay. Because I was sick of people always asking me. So then people started getting annoyed that they were there, which was stupid. I dunno.

Not the best way to come out if I am honest!
Most people tell there close friends, people they can trust first..
Putting it on show isnt the clever way of doing it, not saying its wrong but there are people out there who 'hate' gay people so you would get abuse from them for doing so.
But, I admire your courage If only more people were as confident as that!

[JonahIzPotato]

Whoever's the moderator of this, could you PLEASE close this post?

[Imaginary]

You seem like a real badass, which is a good thing. My mother is the same way as your classmates; if she sees a girl kiss another girl, she'll say they are shoving upon her, whereas a straight couple can french and grope and she doesn't say a word.

I think keep wearing the badges and stickers; when someone says a comment like that, tell them to harrass the straight couples making-love in the hallways instead. You have no reason to hide. Apart from violence and harrassment, but you should be proud of who you are. So yeah... good luck with that.

[MaroonLove]

Try asking these people to stop being so worried about they way you show your pride. Maybe ask them to be a little less hetero-happy?

[Bonheur]

Closed on OPs request.