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I feel out of place in the gay community. - May 31st 2010, 11:20 AM

I don't fit a lesbian stereotype. I don't want to marry a stereotype. I don't really like how the gay rights movement conducts itself, and I feel hypocritical because I am gay.

I basically feel out of place, and that my views are not where they should be.
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Re: I feel out of place in the gay community. - May 31st 2010, 11:48 AM

I feel the same. I don't fit the stereotype either and have no wish to. My girlfriend doesn't look like the stereotype either. I have no desire to get involved in the gay rights movement, Id rather live my life in peace. Don't feel hypocritical. Be who you want to be. The teenager stereotype, at least round here in the UK is hoodies and booze, most of us aren't like that. Stereotypes are generalisations created by the media and don't nesscarily reflect real life.

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Re: I feel out of place in the gay community. - May 31st 2010, 11:54 AM

Screw the stereotype. People say I don't "look" bisexual either. I mean, how different to heterosexual people act from eachother? It's the same with gays, bisexuals and lesbians. You're your own person

When my sister was in a relationship with a girl people assumed they were sisters before a couple.

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Re: I feel out of place in the gay community. - May 31st 2010, 04:29 PM

A lot of lesbians don't fit the stereotype. I am one of them. Like heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals come in all shapes and sizes. We are our own people. There is no reason to feel our of place. Live your life the way you see fit.
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Re: I feel out of place in the gay community. - June 1st 2010, 12:31 AM

Same. People's willingness to fit themselves into the stereotypes really bugs me.
I agree with you particularly about the whole "Gay Rights/Pride" thing. I know a lot of people who actually use it as an excuse to look down on straight people and even alternative sexualities that aren't their own.

Anyway, the point is that it's fine to feel that way. You shouldn't let something inform your identity if you don't want it to, instead be proud that you're more individual than the people who think they are!
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Re: I feel out of place in the gay community. - June 1st 2010, 05:33 PM

What do you mean? There's more than one lesbian stereotype. It's disgusting that you think that way ew... I'm kidding.

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Where I'm from, we call the fakes and stereotypes, 'Fad Fags' and as offensively as it sounds that's the effect we're trying to give to those people who embarrass us on TV, parade around town with the persona 'LOOK AT MEEEEEeeeee~', or go to drag queen conventions show up walk around being a and then leave before the program starts. Do you want to give the LGBT community a face lift? YOU make a group with your friends and find people on craigslist so you can do something nice for the city. Be yourself. Screw stereotypes. And if people say something about it, flip em off.

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