Im bi, and Half of me hates this....?

[Eyes on Fire-Xx]

So, for a while iv been thinkin i might be bi...and i am. i like girls the same as i do guys, and theres a girl i realy like...Iv told 3 super close friends and there suportive and awesome bout it...but, part of my mind hates it. im fine w/ bi people and gay people and everyone, but not myself compleatly. it so hard for me to think ''i like girls'' even tho ik i do and im fine w/ it, its still hard, and knots up my stomach and i feel terrible...or, i think of the girl i like, and shes a lesbian, so we could go out if she liked me, and that made me happy. but as soon as i thought bout me having a gf, my stomach knotted and i got realy mad at myself...its hard to even talk about for to long. so, even tho im seriously fine being bi, my reaction is to get mad at myself, my stomach feels sick, i try not to think about it...but im fine with it realy....idk if that makes sense or if im just wierd, but im so confused and any help would be much apriciated...

[DeadlySin]

This seems like you haven't accepted yourself quite yet.
Take a step back and look at yourself, tell yourself that you like both and it's okay.
I'm assuming that part of you thinks it's wrong you just have to tell yourself its okay.

It's normal to feel this way, but you will figure it out eventually. =)

[Celestial.]

Hey there.

First off, it makes sense, and you're not weird. What you're feeling is completely normal. Things change when they personally affect you. Like, even if you think you're okay with bi/gay people, it's different when it's actually you.

The best thing you can do right now is give yourself time. It may take a while, but eventually you should learn to accept yourself. You say it's hard to talk/think about it - then don't (for now, at least). You don't have to be okay with who you are right away. Discovering that you're bisexual isn't something you need to deal with immediately, or accept overnight.

Also, try to be easy on yourself. Whenever you get mad at yourself, be aware that there's nothing to be angry about; tell yourself that it's okay to feel angry, but try not to take it out on yourself. Finally, one thing I've found useful is to look at things more subjectively. For example, think about how you would respond to your own post, if it were someone else's. What would you say? Then apply that logic to yourself.

I hope I helped, and I hope things work out well.
Take care.

[Sea Monkey]

Hey,

It sounds as if your having troubles accepting it. Ive always been told, difference is good, it shows you are your own person...you're independent.

[lovetakesoverr]

I understand what you're going through. I went back and forth with my orientation, getting frustrated that I couldn't decide, and couldn't pick who to like.
Try not to get mad at yourself. You have to accept yourself, and love the way you are. and being bi, there's just more chances to love

[ChaosControl]

Try not to worry too much. Even though you know you're OK with other people being bi, it seems totally normal to get a bit stressed when you figure it out for yourself. Give yourself some time to get used to it and accept your feelings. It's an enormous thing to come to terms with; you may not necessarily "hate" it but feel a bit daunted by the new experience. If it's who you are then it will soon feel very natural. Go with the flow and remind yourself you have nothing to be angry about.

[Eyes on Fire-Xx]

thank you all so much. yes, i gave it a lil time and now im totaly ok ^_^ even asked a girl out, lol. thank you guys :3

[Dark_Night]

It does take some time to get used to. Deep down I've always known but like you it was a part of myself that I hated which is what genuinely made me so unhappy all the time- knowing that there was a part of me that I didn't want to accept, that I wanted to just go away but you can't take away who you are it would almost be like becoming nonexistant. I think that when you do begin to accept it then it will be as if a huge weight has been lifted off and there is no need to ask the age old question of 'who am I' since you all ready know.

Glad to hear you've accepted yourself but don't rush it either because that could just add to more stress.

[Soliloquy]

Glad to hear you're finding it easier to accept yourself! Congratulations on asking a girl out!

Since this question seems have been resolved, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread. Please feel free to PM me with any questions or concerns!