The boyfriend that I don't like

[Charlie1230]

I have a boyfriend but I don't like him anymore. When we got together I was happy with him and felt loved. But when we kissed it didn't feel right. Then I started to notice that I am having crushes on the same gender as me. I can't just break up with him. I know that he loves me so much but I have to act like I still love him. I'm too nice of a person to break his heart. I'm not sure what to do about this. I still want to be friends with him but I'm afraid that he won't want to see me if I blow off the relationship. How am supposed to tell him that I don't love him anymore. I'm so confused I just don't know what to do!

[teen spirit]

The best advice is to be honest with him because right now, you aren't being honest with him but more importantly...you aren't being honest with yourself by staying in the relationship. It takes great courage to be honest because we are so afraid of what the price is for our honesty. Is living unhappy worth the price of being afraid to hurt someone's feelings? It's not fair to either of you to remain in a relationship that isn't "true." If you tell him exactly how you feel then the worst case scenerio is: you both can then find people who will make you happy.

Letting people down is difficult but if you speak from your heart being truthful and sincere...in time, you both will realize it was for the best.

Be strong...you deserve to be happy!

[Charlie1230]

What's really hard is I think right now I just don't have the courage. To tell him I want to break up with him. I don't want him to cry. He is really sensitive.

[Maiden]

Be honest with him! Seriously. I held off breaking up with my girlfriend for months because I didn't want to hurt her, and it ended up with her breaking up with me and hating me. We now have a terrible relationship going on, it definitely can't be called friendship, because she despises me and is continually trying to get back at me for hurting her. But I feel so bad because I did hurt her that I just take it all. It would have been so much better if I'd just been honest with her. He will respect you if you are honest with him. It will hurt him so much more if he finds out you've been stringing him along for ages. BELIEVE ME!

For a while after the break up, he might not want to see you for a bit but you're much more likely to be friends in the future if you are honest with him and tell him the truth.

[Charlie1230]

Thanks. I think I needed to hear that. I am going to tell his mom before I break up with him so she gets a warning. She is really nice. Maybe he will understand and maybe he won't. I guess you never know until you try.