This is hard

[Charlie1230]

My friend just asked me if i liked the same gender as myself which is female. I answered yes because it was true and I hate lying to her. She said it would explain a lot from my personality. She understood me but she said that she didnt like the same gender as her. She asked me if I had a crush on her. I havent replied because I do. I dont know if I should tell her because she doesnt feel the same as me. She even has a boyfriend. Hes bad though because he smokes weed. I told her to stay away from him but she says she loves him. But I love her. What should I do?

[taylalatbh.]

If she has a boyfriend then she might not be interested in a new partner regardless of who it is. Her decision to be with this particular boy is a different issue altogether. If she is okay with him smoking weed, and the way he is then there's nothing you can do about it. She's obviously happy with him and loves him so you have to leave it at that.

As far as your crush is concerned, you can tell her if you feel comfortable. But if you think it will affect your relationship and friendship with her, then you might want to hold back. If she doesn't feel the same as you then you might not get any benefit from telling her your feelings. Maybe you should try to get over your crush because she already has a partner and she's happy with him.

Take care.

[Paddy]

There's no rush in telling her or anyone anything.

It's so nice that your friend understood, we all need a friend like that.
But like said, feeling comfortable is key in most things.
so if you are go for it, if you're unsure - focus on keeping your friendship strong.