My Bestfriend :

[Lexabutt]

My Best Friend`s A Lesbian & She And Her Girlfriend Just Broke Up Like Two Days Ago & She`s All Depressed .. Which Is Understandable . But She`s Always Asking Me Advice And I Don`t Know How To Help Her Simply Because Im Straight . We Tell Each Other Everything , But Our Friendship Is Kinda Going Sour Because I Never Really Know What To Say , & She Takes It As If I Dont Care .

[colie18]

Sweetie.. I completely understand how you feel.. but we LGBTQ people are just like everyone else... just do what you would do if she was dating a guy. Console her tell her there is someone else out there who deserves her love and obviously her ex gf isn't the one. Just do what you would do if she had just broken up with a guy!

XOXO
Nicole

[aranel05]

Like the above poster said, it does not matter whether your friend was in a homosexual or heterosexual relationship--she's still looking for the same advice as you would. I remember when I was still in high school, I had feelings for my straight female friend, while my best friend had feelings for a guy that could lead to nothing. We both acknowledged that (despite the different preferences in attraction) we were both going through the exact same situation, and could therefore (most certainly) give each other advice. Just say what you would say if a friend asked you for advice after breaking up with her boyfriend.

[enfantreve]

I agree. Don't treat her any differently as though she were a straight friend. One thing we queers cannot stand is when people treat us like we experience love differently than anyone else. We are attracted to the same gender, but we feel love the same as you or the next guy.

[Lexabutt]

-- Thats The Thing ... I Dont Think I Treat Her Different , But She Jst Doesnt Get It . I Just Don`t Know What To Say Sometimes , I Don`t Want To Offend Her . &IKnow That By Not Helping Her .. She's Offended As Well . OHGOSH -____-

[Celestial.]

Hey Alexis.

The best advice I can give you is to talk to her. You guys are close, right? Let her know that you want to help, but you're not sure how. Ask her if she thinks you're treating her differently, and if she says yes, apologise and explain that you didn't mean to.

I'm curious as to what you mean by offending her - why/how do you think you'd do that? Do you think she's offended by your reluctance to offer advice?

Once again, I recommend talking to her. Talk it through, ask each other questions, help each other understand. You might reach a solution that suits both of you.

Good luck.

[Guru]

Just put yourself in her shoes. If you're feeling 'uncomfortable' with the situation, you can 'overlook' the fact that she is lesbian, and just see it as the fact that she has just broke up with a partner. Tell her what you truly think, in my opinion it's always the best thing to do. But at the end of the day, it's what you feel comfortable doing.