Don't Know what to do...

[brayden]

I am gay and over the summer I was seeing this guy from my school and everything seemed to be going fine. However, we didn't get to hang out a lot because of our busy schedules. Then, football season started for him and he started getting distant and acting different. So, I asked him what was going on with us, telling him that i still liked him and he said he wasn't sure about his sexuality, which I just took as a clue to back off. Since then, he's been back to himself and always approaches me in the halls etc... He even said that he hopes we can spend our life together as friends or possibly more. I just don't know whether I should keep bothering with this guy or just move on.... Please Help!!

[Dr.Bobby]

Hi Brayden,

you know, this isn't so much a 'gay' issue as it is just a basic relationship one. It's a bit different b/c he's unsure of his sexuality, which would change what could happen, but that's just a part of it. Straight people are often unsure about the other person, too, and if they want to continue.

So, i think the advice is the same. Tolerate the ambiguity and enjoy him as a friend and person who you value, even of right now it's not the type of companionship you once had or hoped for. Let him go thru his own process here, let him do a bit of self searching and find out who he is and what he wants. With time, things sort themselves out, and the important thing is to have a valued friend in your life, in whatever capacity that might be.