Girls never like me back

[Aimee_Rose]

I've known I'm Bisexual for a while and I'm fine with it. I accept who i am and im proud of myself... but recently I've been soo annoyed at girls never feeling the same way.
I had a crush on my best friend. she doesn't mind me being bi and was flattered when i told her i liked her. so we went out and i was really happy until i realised she was just going out with me because she liked the attention we got from people.. she never let me hold her hand or hug her, then at a party she made out with a friend of mine (a guy). i broke up with her and got heaps mad at my friend, i wouldn't talk to him for ages. then she tried to get me to sort things out with him. She said i shouldn't be mad at him coz he's a guy and i'm a girl. people don't take lez relationships seriously.

I couldn't believe it, but it was true. no one gives a shit about my feelings towards girls. they don't understand its the same as straight feeling. and it still hurt. things are okay between us but i never really forgave them for it...

then today i told this other girl i like that i had a crush on her and she said she didn't feel the same way.. it keeps happening. they never like me back. i want a girlfriend so bad. i want someone to hold, protect, hug, love and have love me back... but I'm starting to think I'll never have that, just coz im a girl. i see all my guy friends with their gfs and they don't even realise how lucky they are

anyone feel the same way? or know how i can meet someone?

[katpanda]

Maybe, you are just looking in the wrong places.

[softball]

Hi. Mine name's also Aimee and ironically, I'm also bi-sexual. It's funny because I also have fallen in love with my best friend (a girl) and she accepted my feelings. We've never dated though, but because of my love for her, I'm okay with her just being my friend. As long as she's in my life some way or another, I'm happy.

You should try getting to know some other girls better to see if you have much in common with them a.k.a your sexual orientation. And who knows, someday you might start a long, healthy relationship with one of the girls

[Celestial.]

Hi there.

I think a lot of us, whether straight, gay, bisexual, or otherwse, have felt this way. Having a crush on someone and having them not feel the same isn't specific to lesbian attractions (by that I mean being a girl who's attracted to other girls, whether you're attracted to guys as well or not), so don't get discouraged. It's hard to find a straight person who's never had unrequited feelings - sometimes things just don't work out, like between you and your friend. It's nobody's fault, and you can't let it get to you.

Unfortunately, as with your best friend, some people, especially girls and especially at your age, see being in a same-sex relationship as some kind of rebellion or status symbol, regardless of their actual feelings. I'm sorry you got caught up in that, but that doesn't mean there aren't plenty of genuinely same-sex attracted females out there who want exactly what you do. If your friend doesn't understand that your feelings are as real as any she might feel for guys, maybe you could try explaining it to her? If it's still bothering you, it's probably worth mentioning.

You have plenty of time to meet girls, and to find somebody with whom you can share a meaningful relationship, so you shouldn't worry too much now - which I know is easier said than done, but it's good advice all the same. Sometimes you hit and sometimes you miss, and unfortunately that's part of life - and of love. You may have had a bad run with girls so far, with having them not share your feelings, but that doesn't mean it will continue that way, so just keep trying.

As for how to meet girls, the best way is just to get out there. Join clubs and meet people who share your interests. Broaden your circle of friends. Attend LGBT events or clubs, if you have any near you. The more peple you know, the better chance you have of meeting the right girl for you.

Good luck!

[Chasers]

Hey there!

Don't let this discourage you. I didn't get my first girlfriend until I was almost 18! I'm glad I waited, better then going through all the crap just to get there. You are young, don't rush and you know what they say, the minute you stop looking, you find someone.

So just take your time and like the previous poster said, look for groups so you can find others that are part of your community. I'm sure you would rather wait to find a decent girl rather than rush into one and be treated like your best friend did. Waiting is always worth it, and I know you may not see that at 15.

Feel free to PM me with any questions. I try to be here to help and hopefully you will find friends like you, LGBT wise. I know I didn't find any until my senior year, because well, no one wanted to come out! Time always helps.

~Chasers

[darkxdreamer13]

I do agree, it's often harder to find love of the same sex, at least that's how I feel. So you are not alone my dear.
Sorry about your friend though, best of luck!

[Tiffany79582]

ive had the same problem just be patient dont go after every bi girl or lez girls as i did i waited and focused on other things then i found the girl of my dreams so just be patient and just flirt a few times lol

[bookishnerd]

Hey hun. I'm Mary, 17, and also bisexual. Just because you're not in a relationship now does not mean that the one who is the one for you isn't out there. Most of the time it takes time to find someone to date. If you keep a smile on your face and hope in your heart, someone will come along and sweep you off of your feet. Don't give up hope!

PM me any time if you want to talk or need advice. My inbox is always open.

[Viky]

Irony time. I was just thinking about that today. I'm bi-sexual as well and I have wanted a girlfriend for a while. I went out with one of my friends but it turned out she was using me. She used me to get to one of my friends that she liked.... Every other girl I'm either scared to tell I like or I wont admit to myself that i like them because I'm scared of getting hurt because none of them like me... :/

[Kiahna]

hey im kiahna, im 16 and ive had the same exact problem, i know its complicated trying to find a girl to date i mean our playing field is alot smaller :P but dont give up there is always someone there who you could be perfect with, my advice is your special and you seem pretty cool and down to earth keep looking, if someone doesnt appreciate you or like you they probably arnt worth your time, i know how badly you would want to love someone protect someone care for someone and just be someones everything but if you wait not only can you do those things you could get them in return, just keep your eyes open because the most special people can be found in this most unlikely of places

[faypirate23]

I know exactly how you feel, as many bi and lesbian girls do as well. Im convinced im completely and utterly lez, and this makes it even harder. let me give you some good advice, never trust a bi girl! lol Ive dated one before and she broke my heart, and you never know when their going to randomly makeout with a guy or what. I have nothing against bi girls, their awesome actually, I just would REALLY have to like one to ever date one again. I've searched high and low for someone who I can hold and love and have in my life. I've thought I've found true love before, but it was just infatuation. It takes years to find true love, but you must be patient and hold out for the right girl dont waste your time on finding someone, just wait for someone great (: i promise you wont be alone for the rest of your life. < this is creepy.

[MacGuffin]

First of all, while I know it may feel like, getting burned a couple of times does not mean you are never going to have a girlfriend and no one cares about your feelings. But I feel the need to point out to you that "caring about your feelings" does not equate to "someone likes me totally and completely back and wants to be my girlfriend." Caring about feelings and reciprocating them are not mutually inclusive. It sucks, but it's true.

I'm really sorry about your first girlfriend. I can only imagine what a hurtful experience that must have been, but not everyone is like that. There are decent girls who won't treat you that way, and it's best not to let this experience jade you. For possibilities to occur, you have to be open to them.

Let me say there is nothing wrong with wanting a girlfriend. I wanted one when I was fifteen, too. I felt very similarly to what you feel, actually. But this is what I have learned, and it goes more for bisexual people than straight ones, actually, though it still applies: people are not commodities. They are not something to possess. I'm not discounting the fact that you have true feelings about this, because those are completely valid. But the harder you try for a relationship because you want to hold on to one, probably because you think it can fill you in some way you can't fill yourself, the less likely you are to find one. People smell desperation, and they back away from it. But when you are confident on your own, and don't rely on having a girlfriend to make you feel better, it's going to be much more noticeable and people will respond better.

Also, you may or may not get a girlfriend in high school, and you may want to be prepared for that. Having the right opportunity present itself doesn't work on your schedule necessarily. It's more of a keep-your-eyes open sort of thing and when the right opportunity comes along you'll know it.

I seriously recommend not spending too much time and energy chasing after straight girls. That means if you don't know someone's sexual orientation for certain, I would fish to find out before you get too head over heels. Are your pickings more slim? Yes. But once you find someone, it's more likely to work. Trust me, If you don't it only rewards you with heart ache, because no matter how much you care for them, they aren't going to be able to reciprocate your feelings. That's just a fact.

I would advise asking yourself why you want a girlfriend so badly, too. That could give you some good insights about yourself, and that way you can question your intentions in this matter, because usually if someone is that desperate for a relationship there is a good reason for it.

Good luck, and PM me if you need anything.

[ChrisB]

Hi there!
I cant say i have been in your exact postion but there is just one thing that i want to say and its
TIME
give yourself time
everything comes with time
i know its cliche but it is the truth
I never thought I would find someone that would stick around with all the messed up things i have been through and the messed up things that i did. but you know as soon as i stopped looking the perfect girl walked into my life and ever since I have been so happy.
give yourself time
love you for you
dont force anything
and it will come