She's...wow.

[lexilette]

My name is Lexi. I'm seventeen years old, and am in a relationship with a great guy and have been for three years.

However, theres this lesbian girl in my school, and she makes my heart stop. She makes me nervous and shy, when in realty I'm very outgoing and blunt.

I know I am bi. Ive dated a few chicks before but I've never been this...different before. And I dont understand why this is affecting me so much..

Can someone please help me? /:

[Liz94]

This is a question you can only really answer yourself.

What you have to ask yourself is "Would I leave my boyfriend for her?" "Do I want to be with her?" "Have I ever felt this strongly about someone before?"

I would also suggest talking to both your boyfriend and this girl. Be open and honest about how you are feeling.

It is difficult, but the best way to deal with this situation.

Good luck

[Jennifer]

I agree with Liz. Honestly I can't tell you why this is effecting you so much I don't own your heart. Like Liz said talk to your boyfriend and this girl about how your feeling be honest. Honesty is the best policy.

[k0d3x]

Sometimes certain people are just flat out SEXY to you no matter how committed you are to your current partner. Some people have a certain sexiness to them that I personally just.. FREAK OUT over sometimes that consumes me. It just sounds like you're crushing on her.. Well your subconscious is. Don't over think it you'll drive yourself mad.

[faypirate23]

When I was dating my last bf...literally my last bf. i Fell in love with a girl, i immediatley left him because honestly, I was getting bored of our relationship, and I thought I was supposed to feel more than I did. When i first got with the girl, everything about it was different and I liked it so much more than being with a guy. I havent went back to guys since, although she broke my heart. Before you jump to conclusions, make sure you really like this girl, because you could regret dumping your bf for her especially if she doesant feel the same way. Do what makes YOU happy.

[FriendZoneMayor]

This actually happened to my best friend. She was completely in love with her boyfriend, but when her and I were together, we possitively took each other's breath away. I knew she liked me, I liked her a lot, and her boyfriend knew too. I asked her the same questions people are telling you to ask yourself (would you leave him for her, who would make you happier, etc), and she chose her boyfriend, but kept me as a really close friend. I'd personally recommend the friend thing first, but be really careful not to cross any lines with her or lead her on if you plan to stay with your boyfriend.

[MacGuffin]

This is a decision you have to make. You will need to weight what's more important to you; taking a chance for somebody new or sticking with what you know is a good thing. Neither one is really a right or wrong answer; it just needs to reflect what you feel. Raise the pros and cons of each, and talk to your boyfriend about it. For now, though, just remain friends with her. It's not a good idea to push things with her when you haven't sorted out the relationship you are in currently.

[ChrisB]

I am going to agree with Liz, this is a question you need to answer inside yourself. Is this girl what you really want, or is your boyfriend. But there is one thing I will say if its the girl you need to be fair to this boyfriend of yours. I know thats blunt and can be taken as rude but that is not my intention. What I am saying is do what you want, but you need decide for yourself. It can be hard, your still kind of young (i know i am too at 20) my mother always tells me not to tie myself down at such a young age but i know the feeling of love, as I am in love with my partner. But take time with just yourself ask yourself a few questions. Is this love, lust, a crush. Do I want her or my boyfriend. These are things only YOU can answer unfortunatly. And it sucks big time. But know that there are pleanty of people here that are more than willing to support you and guide you along the way. If you ever need anything don't ever hesitate to ask!