Bisexual curse?

[Maiden]

I've been with my girlfriend for three years now but more and more lately, I've been wanting to have sex with guys. I can't really even explain it or explain why. I'm still attracted to girls but I'm also attracted to guys but obviously I can't go and have sex with a guy while I'm with my girlfriend. Does anybody else have this problem? What do you do about it?

[Jaguar]

Umm. Well. It's like this:

My fiancee (and soon to be wife) is bi and someone on here helped me understand what goes on with her, and that made all the difference in the world. Some men will be ok with your bisexuality and even be comfortable with your having a gf if you are polyamorous. There are all kinds of people and all kinds of arrangements, depending on what the circumstances are. It just depends on what you work out with those you love. Bisexuals are special people: they tend to be unconventional, creative and individualistic. It takes a special person to be a partner with one and I hope you can find one.

[MacGuffin]

Personally, this is why I don't think bisexuality and monogamy work. I mean, they can, as evidenced by many people who do it, but I do wonder how satisfied both parties are in a relationship where one of them (usually the wife/girfriend) is bisexual but she/he has to stay completely dedicated to his or her spouse. I mean, I call that a form of denial, for you are always going to be attracted to people of your sex. It's kind of like living life only partially complete.

This is why I prefer alternative relationships. For example, I am in a polyamorous relationship. My boyfriend has another girlfriend and she actually used to be MY girlfriend, too, but for the time being we aren't dating anymore. So for me I got to have sex with a guy and a girl on a regular basis, often at the same time, but for me even that wasn't completely satisfying, because I wanted to be able to see other people outside of the relationship should attraction arise...NOT as boyfriends or girlfriends, because I was happy with what I had going on in that department, but as sexual partners. Currently I am seeing a wonderful young woman every once in a while, and I am happy with that.

Basically, my relationship is an open poly relationship. Is it easy? Not really. The more people you bring into a relationship the more complicated it gets, but I find it makes me happy, so I am okay with it.

Perhaps you and your girlfriend can arrange something so that you are in a relationship with her, but you and her are free to sleep with other people within limits you agree upon. This is not an easy thing to understand, though, and it may be very difficult to approach your partner about it, because they could take it to mean they aren't enough for you or you aren't satisfied with them, especially sexually. So IF this is something you want to consider, it's important to think very carefully about how and when you want to talk about this.

In the end, you may have to weigh what's more important to you: keeping your relationship with your girlfriend, or being able to fulfill the needs a part of yourself has. They don't always coincide, and you may have to make a though decision, one that no one else can make for you. But it's really up to you.

Feel free to PM me if you have anymore questions, and good luck.

[ChrisB]

Okay, I am going to get kind of sexual here in a way
but
I am female bodied but i identify as male and i am with a female bodied person who identifies as female.
As odd as it may seem i love the feeling of sleeping with "male parts" like in sexual intacorse i guess you would say but also I dont want to be with a guy because my girlfriend makes me very happy but there are ways to expierment you could always use toys or a strap on or something of the sort sometimes the female body just has urges for penatration. sorry if that is blunt. or it could also be that you want to be with a male bodied individule, this is something that you need to ask yourself, but there is nothing wrong with either of the two. talk to your girlfriend be honest on sexual disiers and just be honest in general!

[Squiggly]

I have the same problem as you but I am reversed :P. Just think about what this girl means to you and if you really love her and find out if it's worth it to break up. If you think you wan't to stay with her but want to have sex with a guy maybe ask her about a threesome?