Non-PG13: Am I bI?

[BBoy]

I think I am bi, but how can I know? I think about boys all the time when I jerk off. But sometimes I like to look at pictures of hot girls also.

[Loving Linux Penguin]

Honestly, there is no surefire set-in-cement way to know your sexual orientation. It's really up to you to figure it out, and it's also up to you whether you even WANT to label it. Some people prefer to just love who they love and not worry about what they "are". Going on what you just said alone, it is definitely possible for you to be bisexual, but I wouldn't just slap a label on yourself if I were you. Take some time to figure out who you are.

[BBoy]

I guess so. So you are 15 and bi? When did you figure it out and how?

[Loving Linux Penguin]

Well, I could be considered "bi" yes, but I prefer not to use the labels when I can avoid it. It's actually open to interpretation as I lean almost exclusively towards men at the moment.

I found out simply by noticing my own likes and dislikes. I think I've always known, to an extent, that I was different, but I started really noticing it probably about a year and a half ago, or somewhere in there.

[BBoy]

when u say u lean toward men, do you mean men like older men or guys your age?

have you had any experience yet?

for some reason i seem to be hot for guys younger than me, like 10-12? is that weird?

[Loving Linux Penguin]

When I say "men" I mean the same sex as me. Usually I find people around my age range or a little older to be the ones that I drool over (assuming they are attractive to me). I don't think it's that odd to be attracted to kids that are younger than you. I mean...if it was a 3-year old, that may be viewed as odd, but 10, 12...no biggie.

If by "experience" you mean romance or sexual encounters, not really. I have had two crushes though, both of which ended miserably when I told the guy.

[BBoy]

Yeah, there's this really cute kid at church who I think about a lot. He's almost 11. That's not weird?

I have kind of a crush on an older guy too, but I'm afraid to tell him. He's married.

How did your crushes end badly?

[--.redpanda.--]

You can't ask us if you are bi or anything considering we can't really tell you the answer of it. You might be bi-curious or something, but we can't feel what you are feeling.

I know that telling someone that you have a crush on them is really hard. I am in the process of doing this with a girl that I am in love with. She is my friend and my schoolmate, but I can't just come out and say that I loved her. So, I'm working on telling her little by little about my sexuality. She has just figured out that I was bisexual and I hadn't told any of my friends at home. She knows that I have a crush on one of the people she knows. Of course, she knows herself and so it didn't really give her a hint, but I've just been having a hard time with it because I know that I value her friendship as well.

You have to just tell them little by little. It isn't something that just can be done in one day. It is hard for some people to accept when you just say, "Oh I'm -insert an orientation here- and I love you." Honestly that will make them back away from you. You should seriously just say, when the timing is right, "I'm -insert an orientation here-." Once you do that, it isn't as weird as it was. At least, that has been the case with me so far. You've got to just deal with the fact that they might not accept that about you and if they don't then they aren't the right one for you.

Everything happens for a reason. :3

[Jaguar]

Well, reading your posts I think so although I wouldn't put yourself in a box just yet. You're only 15 so your feelings can definitely change and even though you have feelings for same sex, don't discount the possibility that it's raging hormones and if you had the same opportunity with girls you would identify yourself as straight.

When it comes time to experiment please stick to as close to your own age as possible. Older guys can have motives that you don't want to get involved with, such as pedophilia, and it's unfair for you to have sex with a 10-12 y/o as it will cause him a lot of anxiety and doubts that he's not able to deal with yet, so if you feel some love for a boy that age, do him a favor and leave him alone sexually even if he seems curious about it.

[Sythan]

Who you masturbate to isn't really a reliable way to tell who you're attracted to. I watch straight porn sometimes when I masturbate, but I'm still gay.

You will know what you are because you will get that feeling. If you are bisexual, you will feel attracted, either more than the other or equally, to members of both sexes. Just like how I'm romantically, physically, and sexually attracted to male identified persons.

[Squidgy]

I agree with Sythan.
If you're attracted to guys and girls you could be one of multiple things. But as long as you're comfortable with who you are, Who needs labels?

[Lune]

I don't know if there is a true way to know if you're bi, as in you do this your automatically bi kind of thing. With me I'm bi because i like a guy, but i also like girls. But my liking of girls and guys isn't sexual, but more love and emotional.