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Told My Parents -
January 2nd 2012, 07:29 AM
I told my parents I'm bisexual earlier. That was the toughest conversation I've ever had. It was a lot harder than I thought it would be.
"We still love you but won't accept or support you." Those words were expected but hurt to the core. How can they truly love me as their daughter if they don't accept me as a person? I know it will take them a while to adjust to the idea. I know they were against it before I told them, and I don't expect them to change, but it still hurts. I know it'll be "ok" eventually. Shocking news such as this will take time to adjust to and soak in. It was comforting when my mom told me, "I just want you to be happy. Please be with someone who makes you happy." and then asked more about my girlfriend after my dad left the room. It's comforting to know she at least supports me that much. |
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January 2nd 2012, 08:33 AM
Hi There Mary!
First off; congratulations for coming out to your parents, coming out to anyone much less your parents is a very daunting task. Few people have gained the confidence to come out and please be so proud of your self for doing so. It seems that your parents are more in a shock that actually against you. As a parent news like "Mom I'm Bi" , "Dad I'm Bi" is really shocking for ones parents. But seeing how your mother told you she just wants you to be happy and asking about her shows that she shows interest; which really is a step into accepting/supporting you. Like you said things will be okay and even if it does take awhile both of your parents will grow to accept and support you. Just take things one by one and continue to be strong for everyone else out there and in no time things will get so much better! 
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January 2nd 2012, 10:39 AM
hey, hey, hey...congratulations for opening up with your folks! that's something remarkable!
well, being shocked is normal. i mean...you kinda expected it, didn't you? anyways, they'll understand/support you eventually. till then best of luck!  x
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January 2nd 2012, 11:00 AM
It surprises that parents still act in such crude ways towards their children. "We won't accept you" that's so backwards and quite frankly they deserve a slap.
But that's what was going to happen right? They were bound to be stunned by it. Anyway, well done on telling your parents and I think over time they'll get over the hurdle of that news and realise you're normal = acceptance again well done again Hey, guess why i smile a lot... because it's worth it
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January 2nd 2012, 11:14 AM
"...they deserve a slap." - haha well said!
Congratualations on telling your parents ! I wish I could be as bold as you (: maybe some day  |
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January 2nd 2012, 04:10 PM
Big congrats on telling the parents... mine were pretty much the same - they are far more accepting now though. I hope its the same for you x
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January 2nd 2012, 05:33 PM
I'm a parent myself and along way off them kind of conversations with my daughter but if she told me was bi or gay....then so be it...all I would want to know is that she happy and it doesn't matter if it's a girl or boy that makes her happy.
probably still be a shock but I be more hurt if she felt that she couldn't tell me at all |
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Re: Told My Parents -
January 2nd 2012, 05:46 PM
Aww thanks y'all!
They told me about a family friend who was gay (I just found that out last night) and how, even though he was their friend for several years, they never accepted him. I know it's going to be a long, tough journey, but if I made it through telling them, I can make it through anything now.
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January 2nd 2012, 06:17 PM
First of all, congratulations on telling your parents. That was extremely brave.
I'm sorry that they aren't as supportive as you would like them to be, but it seems that your mom might come around one day. For now, just accept the fact that they do want you to be happy and run with that -- you really do deserve to be with someone that gives you butterflies in your tummy and makes you smile so big that it almost hurts.
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January 2nd 2012, 06:37 PM
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January 2nd 2012, 08:40 PM
Huge props to you for coming out to your parents. Seriously, that takes a TON of courage.
I too recently came out to my parents (except I'm a lesbian) and had a similar reaction from them, so if you need to talk, feel free to pm me. “I cannot prevent anyone from getting angry, or mad, or frustrated. I can only hope that they’ll turn that anger and frustration and madness into something positive, so that two, three, four, five hundred will step forward, so the gay doctors will come out, the gay lawyers, the gay judges, gay bankers, gay architects … I hope that every professional gay will say ‘enough’, come forward and tell everybody, wear a sign, let the world know. Maybe that will help.” Harvey Milk, 1978
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Re: Told My Parents -
January 2nd 2012, 08:54 PM
Hey I just wan't to say that was really brave of you to tell your parent's congratulations! You are right about everything it takes a while for them to get used to you and it seems like their reactions were a lot better than they could have been. Anyways I know it is a really hard thing to do as I still haven't and I don't plan too unless I have to
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Re: Told My Parents -
January 3rd 2012, 12:06 AM
Hey there,
like everyone else said, congrats on coming out. that was a brave and strong move on your part, and you should be proud of yourself. second, i understand somewhat how you feel. my mom is a jesus freak and i cannot talk about this with her. at all. anything related to the LGBT community is pretty much off limits in this house. please don't take this the wrong way, but if you are happy with who you are, in time, the opinions of others won't matter. and like LovesBrokenDream said, you deserve to find someone who makes you happy, and i really hope you do. i wish you the best of luck. feel free to PM/VM me anytime
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Re: Told My Parents -
January 3rd 2012, 12:34 AM
Dad's always have a harder time than mom's when told something they'er not ready to handle.
He'll come around soon! And it's good that your mom is nice about it. I agree those words hurt but in the end it was something that needed to be said and put out there and you did it and i'm very proud of you! They'll come around soon <3 Things will get better!!! Always be postive no matter what happens! Some things are beautiful because they are un-obtainable <3
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Re: Told My Parents -
January 3rd 2012, 12:55 AM
That's good that your mom supports you...your dad on the other hand will take time for him to get use to the idea of you dating your girlfriend...it's important for u to be happy...u being yourself and telling them truthfully is cool of u to do that
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