I'm genderqueer

[Liz94]

Ok so for a couple of years I have had confusion over my gender....

Some days I wake up feeling like a boy, others days feeling like a girl. I dress and act differently depending on what gender I wake up as.

It confused and distressed me alot....but then I did some research and was watching videos online when I came across genderqueer and after a week or so of researching, relfecting and thinking I have realised that I am genderqueer to be exact I am Gender-fluid.

Realising this has taken a huge weight off my shoulders. I am happy being biologically female and am happy with being gender-fluid

If anyone thinks or knows they are genderqueer I would love to hear from you

[George^^]

Congrats, Elizabeth, for being perfectly happy with yourself!

I know my gender says FTM, but that's because I'm more comfortable being on the more "male" side of the gender spectrum.

I'm still kind of, searching myself for who I exactly am. I mean, sometimes I'm more female than usually, and then I feel more gender-neutral or male... So it's kind of a complectated thing to figure out, but I feel deffinatly that I fit in more as FTM but at the same time kind of genderqueer too.

(Does that even make sense?... oh well.)

[Liz94]

Yes that makes sense. It did take me a long time to work out and feel comfortable finding out who I was.

It is good that you are trying to find who you are, I think it is an important thing to do.

Good luck with it all and I am always here. It is nice to hear and get factual evidence that I am not alone, cause it is a pretty loney place. :/

[George^^]

Thanks, and I can understand. I'm pretty sure I might be like, the only non-cis student in my class (heck, my whole grade. this place isn't to into LGBT), so it's pretty scary sometimes.

[Tigerlily.]

Well to be honest I have no clue what I am gender wise, I say I'm bi-gender, but I really have no clue for sure. With me I feel female, from the waist up, but I feel as though I should be a male below my waist. Most of the time anyway. Someday I feel more female than others. So as I said before (sorry to be repetitive) I don't really know, haha. I mean like my name is Cheye, but I have thought about male names for myself, and I consider my male name to be Chase.

[Loving Linux Penguin]

I am not personally, but I do have a friend that identifies as "bigender", and I think it's a beautiful and wonderful thing!

[Liz94]

Thanks for sharing it helps alot.

I feel relieved that I have worked out my gender identity, but now I am finding the prospect of telling people really hard. I want to be out and open like I am about the fact that I am a lesbian. However the thought of explaining how I wake up different genders, that I want to on my boy days dress in actual male cloths not the tomboy ones I do at the moment, that I identify as straight on my male days and lesbian on my girl days is daunting. But then I hate being in the closet about it.

Its all so confusing and up and down :/

[~Wallflower~]

Well, I am sure if you dress more like a tom boy one day and girly the others, people probably have a fairly good idea. You don't have to start by telling everyone though. You can always try starting with talking to people who are close to you about it, you don't have to tell everyone you know before your completely comfortable with the explanation.
And I think I know someone who is uh I think bigender is the word? She is physically female, but dresses a lot like a boy but not totally, and doesn't consider herself male or female. There is a word for it I just don't know it

[Liz94]

They think that its just cause I am lesbian, and at school whatever gender I wake up as I dress in a skirt, even though on my male days I hate it cause I get talked about enough.

But thanks, I am going to try and tell my best friend tommorow

[TheCrowing]

Grats. It's one of those difficult things to finally fully come to terms with.

Although I prefer female pronouns (she, hers, her, herself) I do identify as genderqueer. For 6 years, I didn't like gender-specific pronouns, and my gender was much more fluid than it is now. For some reason though, I kind of strayed away from that. So my gender is still very much fluid and I don't put emphasis on male/female mannerisms or attire. I do a little bit of everything, and that's fine with me.

Before going to college, nobody understood it, nobody cared to understand it. I grew up in a city where being LGBTQ was totally fine, but once you mentioned anything about gender-expression past the butch-femme binary, it was unbelievably close-minded. But since I came to college, everyone is much more understanding, and although I do prefer female pronouns, friends and people that know me understand that there's more to my gender and sexuality than the word 'she'.

I think that you should be you. And don't let anyone tell you what you are and are not.

[George^^]

Elizabeth, when coming out, be sure to stress what name or pronouns you want! Why? Because I came out as bigender, said I wanted to be called George, but I didn't stress it so my friend kept acting like it had never happened... She's only called me George like, three times ever, and that kind of hurts. But other people I have made them call me George through making male nicknames (we were watching Jena Marbles, what boys do in the bathroom in the morning, so it came up... so, YEAY)

[TheCrowing]

^^ Exactly my point.

[Liz94]

Thanks, this is all a bit overwelming and emotional....

I told my best friend this evening, I don't think she really gets it so I am going to talk with her tommorow about it all.

You are right though George I need to be clear about what I want and who I am, cause I can't change it and I shouldn't try to conform to what society thinks I should be I am a genderqueer in the ladies person and I am going to stay that way

[George^^]

No problem, I can understand. For myself, like, being called George, it's like... Living a dream, being able to be called something that someone so important to me use to call me, as a joke, is amazing.

<3 Good luck with her, I'm always around to be like, support and to talk.

And, I'm so proud of you! (Stupid, I know, but I'm uber proud of that statement!)