Fed up with things but can't change them?! (fairly long)

alexjames

I know this is ''teenhelp'' but I'm a 20 year old lad, so I may not be welcome to ask questions, but I'll try anyway! I've NEVER had a girlfriend which always gets me down. I'm shy around people I don't know, but when I'm with people I do know I'm the complete opposite! All of my female friends (I only have 3/4 that I ocassionally speak too) have said they are surprised that I'm not with anybody as I am a ''lovely, caring and sweet Guy'' (there words!). I think the world of my friends and would do anything for them. One of my friends (she's 25) is pregnant with her 2nd child, and I am absolutely delighted for her. She is a beautiful mum and fantastic with her children, but part of me is also really jealous of her as it's been my dream to find a girl and have kids. I just can't ever see it happening. I am really short, have a baby face (I often get told I look like a 14 year old) and am very small in **cough cough** certain areas! I just don't see how any girl would ever be interested in anybody like me, but I hate being alone. Seeing all happy couples everywhere make me happy and smile but also make me feel really jealous! How can I find anybody?

Firesong3

Hi! I'm 20 as well and I know plenty of my friends who are older or the same age as me have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend! There's still plenty of time for you to have children, and as for your physical apperance, girls don't care about that as much as guys do so I wouldn't worry about it

Love happens at the most unexpected times and places... It will probably happen to you when you least expect it.

rac146

I also look young for my age, I'm 21 but can pass for 14/15...I feel you. I never got asked out by guys my age because of my looks... honestly, I had to wait awhile too. but it happened eventually. Don't worry so much about your looks, you'll find a girl who isnt shallow

as far as your size goes...size really isnt everything. My bf is *cough* well endowed, and sex is often painful. Oral and anal will be much easier on your girl if your not as big, and as long as you know how to use what you have (esp fore play wise), pleasuring a girl shouldn't be an issue. and you have plenty of time for sex and babies anyway, right now focus on getting out there and actually getting to know these girls and having FUN before worrying about all this serious stuff!