Female Advice Preferred: What do you prefer: text or phone call?

[CrusadingAvenger]

I'm not really looking for advice, but more like opinions, mainly from the girls. What would you rather have a guy do if you're interested in him romantically: text you, or call you? Why? What's more convenient for you? Which would you appreciate more? I'd like to hear as many opinions as possible. Thanks!

[Wickgaga]

Well, in general I am a texting person, as I get anxious on the phone, but in general would actually prefer to talk in person, if possible.

[PureStorm]

Not a fem here, but got some experience with the other gender. First of all, yes it depends on the person. Aside from that it's always wise to text a bit first especially if you just met recently. My first call will be to arrange a date, which I do after some texting.

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey there,

Personally I prefer phone calls, but I don't always have the time for phone calls so text messages are easier to respond to, but when time is on my side phone calls are better.

[Skeleton]

I'm more of a text person because I hate talking on the phone. As nice as it would be to do it face to face or over the phone to actually hear them say it, I'd have to go with text because that's what I prefer.

[Rivière]

I'd prefer a guy to send me text messages. I struggle with talking over the phone and although I don't with people I know and are close to, I struggle with listening properly. I prefer typing and writing the messages down rather than talking, plus it'd be difficult late at night to start talking to someone because I'd end up keeping people awake whereas texting doesn't.

[Broken Constellation]

Texting is easier, especially if I'm busy. I prefer it if a guy texts me, asking if he could call, and then have him call me. It's always nice to hear his voice only when I'm not busy and swamped in stuff to do.

[bitesize]

Texttttt. I don't like phone calls as a rule, but when you're not competely comfortable with each other yet they can just be awkward. Texting gives you more time to think about a reply. And let's face it, it's always kind of exciting having a text conversation from someone you're interested in and hearing that little 'ding' of a new message

[mindflower]

Hi there

Okay, for me, I am a texting maniac! I can literally type a novel in a minute however, a guy I'm interested in, well, if I'm interested in him it probably means I love his voice. I get a little anxious over the phone, but I warm up to it after 20 minutes or so. So I prefer phone calls when I can. However. I usually don't have time to call, and my family would overhear and be nosey little dorks, and sometimes we would be talking way late at night, so texting is just all around convenient

[Not_here]

I think I'd prefer a phone call only because I don't have a cell phone and therefore can't and don't text. However I wouldn't mind a facebook inbox because that's more convenient (more privacy than a home phone lol) I'm also awkward over the phone, but if it's someone I'm interested in I'd talk on the phone. I'd also like to talk face to face but you asked texting or phone

[Pirouette]

I'd prefer texting since my family is pretty nosy and asks too many questions whenever I talk on the phone with someone. I'm also pretty awkward on phone too..like you know awkward pauses where no one really says anything? I think that can be kind of eliminated through texting, but it depends on the person you're talking to.

[Yours Truly]

Texting. Definitely. I get way too anxious on the phone.. Maybe if they asked if they could call first, and I knew it was going to happen, then that'd be okay. I certainly wouldn't mind hearing their voice. But spur of the moment phone calls, I tend to ignore and make up excuses for not answering.. Texting is easier. haha.

[PSY]

At first, I would prefer texting. I am a VERY busy person, so I prefer texting. I also like the idea of being able to come up with clever questions and taking my time sending/responding to them. After a while, though, I would want to move on to calling, because it is more intimate for me to hear the other person's voice.

[Always *]

I think it largely depends.

I'd have to say texting. The reason for this is that I don't make a lot of phone calls, I tend to phone my parents, my brother and a few VERY close friends (like there's maybe 2-3 people I might call on at least a semi-regular basis) if I just want to chat and/or make plans.

The main other reason I bother making phone calls out side of that group of people is if I am calling to get directions or trying to find someone somewhere. But I'll text to actually make most said plans by texting.

Phone calls can feel intrusive if a person is busy and a girl might be like uhm, what do you want? Like I am REALLY busy, especially in the school year and it's fucking annoying when random people are calling for things, especially for things that aren't even important (like I said, I don't bother phoning a lot of people to begin with). Plus not to mention a phone call can tie a person down. It makes them stop what ever they are doing to chat away with that person, it's hard to drive + hold a phone, it can be down right dangerous in traffic, the person might be on a time line (trying to get ready to go out, doing homework, cleaning etc.)

There are times when phone calls are essential, unavoidable and definitely even welcomed BUUUT this isn't the case by the sounds of it. Not at this stage. If you guys have an established relationship that's a whole other story, but then you sort of move up in priority (for a lack of better words, not to be mistaken for a lack of sensitivity haha)

When in doubt, take the less intrusive option whenever possible, it might seem more superficial but it is more considerate of her time and WAY less awkward if you guys are still getting to know each other. Do your catching up/chit chat in person.

[CrusadingAvenger]

Thanks you all for the opinions! I have a pretty good idea now what most people would rather prefer, and be more convenient.

[Bem]

I actually prefer phonecalls, I like the fact they're more intimate, closer to a real life conversation, and if I'm comfortable, easier.

But I do agree that texting's kind of the safer option, since you can't be sure if the other person is free, or comfortable on the phone, plus it gives you a bit of time to think through replies, which is a massive plus personally.

[Honorary Pug Girl]

I personally like phone calls just because I can hear his voice and tone, but then me and the boyfriend don't always have time to call so we text a lot too. It really just depends if we can do a call I prefer that, but texts work too. It's just nice to talk to him and know he's thinking about me.

[MegaMadness]

Whatever. I don't mind.

[Coffee.]

Either call or IMing over the computer. I'm awful at texting. Smart phones are wonderful, but touch-screen typing is slow, while my computer typing is extremely fast, and I'd much rather be able to have an ongoing conversation at-speed by either calling/skyping or messaging back and forth over the computer.

[Spoons]

In general I'm very bad at phone calls. Sometimes they either make me REALLY fidgety because I like multitasking at it's hard on the phone, or they get me REALLY nervous. I'd rather type or text, but if my significant other wanted to call me every now and then I wouldn't complain as long as the call isn't too long. Everyone is different, though!

[Eternal]

I prefer texting because it's easier to keep the conversation going if we're still getting to know each other. I'm also a person who gets anxious talking on the phone, though.

[Ghost On The Highway]

Interesting, I would have guessed most prefer phone calls based on personal experience. I hate talking on the phone ftr.

[FrostCoatedHeart]

I prefer texting but it's nice to hear the person's voice
once in a while!

[Alexisdominique]

I think it depends on the girl, but texting's usually more convenient and it's cute either way.

[FighterInMe]

Phone calls. Definitely. Maybe start texting first if you guys just met and then call her. But yeah, call her. I think talking is better than texting.

[Garyl]

I'd rather have him text me, but text me often if he were that interested. Phone calls are not only very personal and (preferably) for when I know the person better, but they are time-consuming and I generally just don't have the hours in the day to talk as long as I like to that person. If a guy I liked were to text me, we could carry on a conversation across the whole day, when we both had time to talk.

[Jake M]

I prefer texting personally, I'm a guy though. I think you can be more collected when you text someone.

However, I think it's worth noting that the people who are here discussing their feelings on the internet have already chosen texting / typing as their means of communication. I just think that it's worth noting that we can't speak for the the whole populous as a whole.

[Himitsu]

I think texts are more convenient, and a nice way to say that you're thinking about her without being in the way. However, for things like dates, calling is more personal and romantic, so I'd call every now and then, since calling takes more effort and it shows.

[Azure.]

If its important, phone call. If its just chit chat, text.

[Sylinagigirox2012]

Convineice wise I would take a text over a phone call, it is less personal and has no emotion attached to it… plus I can reply on my own time
A phone call would be so sweet because I would be able I hear the emotion in the guys voice but I get very awkward, nervous, anxious and sound like I'm 5 on the phone so personally, I would take…
Meeting in person, preferably alone and then having even a brief converstation face to face where the guy is free to come in real close and maybe hold my hand or say goodbye with a hug or whatever
Hope this helps cx

[Lilith]

Well...when me and my boyfriend were just starting out I would only text him because I was so shy and hated my phone voice! I'm a lot more comfortable now because I know he likes how I sound on the phone anyway and we just do whatever is convenient for us...I do love a phone call when he can though at work, etc, to me it shows me he is thinking about me more and he is spending his breaks talking to me

[JenniLou]

Personally, I prefer to talk in person, but if it's over a phone I guess I'd say a little of both. I like to text, but I text a lot and annoy most of my friends. Calls are better for hearing implications in their voices and understanding sarcasm etc (that you can't imply through writing).