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Boy drama - February 9th 2015, 01:14 AM

Okay so this guy is sending mixed messages and basically toying with my emotions, outside of school he's as sweet as can be, inside of school he's like deathly afraid to talk to me and avoids me like a disease. Also we used to date but he made a big deal about how we still have to be friends, though he isn't putting much effort into being friends. Help please??
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Re: Boy drama - February 9th 2015, 01:26 AM


Maybe this is something you could talk to him about. Let him know that you are getting mixed messages from him (give examples if you can). Let him know that it is confusing you and is kind of upsetting. Maybe you can ask him what is going on and where he stands? That way, he knows you're noticing and you can get some answers from him?


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Re: Boy drama - February 9th 2015, 02:57 AM

I was in a similar situation with a boy at your age and believe me, it was upsetting but I eventually moved on. It was sad for that to happen because he liked me and then after some "drama" he just didn't acknowledge me and he'd avoid me like I didn't even exist so I know how you feel because he'd be the most caring person outside of school but inside of school, nothing, and he gave me the most stupid reason because of that and it angered me because we were going out and we used to be close friends before yet he hung around with others and left me to find my other close friends.

I agree with Dez, ask him what's going on and tell him that you are confused because you're getting mixed messages from him.
And because you are young (and you two did date) I don't want you to end up like me and not confront him about how you're feeling and then having to move on from something like this without having some closure or answers for this. And if he doesn't make an effort to be friends after making it a big deal then forget him, if he isn't bothering then why should you? I know it may sound a little extreme or harsh but I learned the hard way that if someone makes a fuss about being friends but doesn't put in much effort or relies on you to do it all, then why bother?
Anyways, I wish you luck with this, I hope you get some answers!

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Re: Boy drama - February 12th 2015, 11:56 PM

Hey there,

I think the best thing to do in this situation is to ask your ex what is going on. Just ask him why he is so friendly outside of school, but when it comes to seeing you in person why is he so different towards you. It's easy to debate what he may or may not be thinking but the best chance of getting an honest answer is by asking him, there could be a number of reasons for why he is acting so strangely.

I wish you the best of luck,

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