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Okay so in a week it will be our one year and we are usually good but sometimes we fight and it gets bad. Recently it has not been the same, he has started hanging with a group and guys and some girls and he drives around in a car with this one girl a lot. Now they have started hanging around a lot, more then he hangs out with me. I told him how that makes me upset and he told me not to worry. The other night i asked him whats up and hes like im driving around with "insert girls name here" and some friends. I was like wow thanks. But then the next day he was saying how he's upset or whatever and I asked him why and he's like I'll tell you in person and I was like lets hang out and he said not today and then I said if those girls you hang with asked you to hang I bet you would. Then he told me I'm being controlling and I'm telling who he can and cant hangout with. I mean he is going to bush parties and hanging with girls I thought I should be upset over that. Plus he's weird around me lately,
So I don't know if we should break up or take a break or just talk it out. Please help.
I think this is one of the things where communication is key. He's made new friends and there's often a period at the start of a friendship where it's all exciting and a novelty and you want to spend lots of time with them. That being said that doesn't give him the right to not put effort into your relationship just because he's made new friends.
I'd say before you break up talk it out. Really express how upset this has got you, to the point where you're considering taking a break. Your feelings are always valid, and it doesn't matter whether he thinks you're overreacting, the point is you're upset and he should respect that and talk to you about it. Ultimately this is a decision you should make, but I would recommend having a long talk about this with him first.
This is all red flags. First of all he is not including you with his new group of friends which shows he really does not respect you. Second of all these girls are another red flag, if he is seen with this other girl more than you, then yes he is obviouly interested in her more than you. Hate to say it hunny, but looks like you better leave him. Besides you deserve much better.
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Oh and partying is never a good thing...
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