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Question Gender roles? - May 26th 2015, 04:25 AM

Why is there more sympathy in a straight relationship for the guy to want to take on the female role than a girl wanting to take on the male role? If anything, people (mostly guys) seem to make fun of girls who want to be the "male", but most girls I know tend to find men who want to be the "female" cute, even if it's not their type. Do people think that it's just a new form if feminism or something? (I'm a girl in this situation.) Or am I just unaware of the hate that guys in the "female" role receive?
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Re: Gender roles? - May 26th 2015, 06:07 AM

Well, I know a lot of the time I hear people say guys are "whipped" or if they do feminine things they may think he's a closeted gay. Which isn't right, and neither is it right that women are put down for wanting to be in charge sometimes.

I have always thought that the point of feminism was equality, on both sides. Women can do what they want without being scorned for not being feminine enough, or for being "slutty," or yada yada. Men can be masculine or they can be feminine or they can be somewhere in between. I've always thought it basically was saying that anyone can be who they want without fear of discrimination or being made fun of.

When you are considering entering a relationship, I think you should talk to the person about what they want and don't want. That way there are no mixed signals and nobody gets hurt in the long run. And that way, if you are about to date a guy who wants you to submit to being something you don't want, you know that he's not the one for you. A relationship involves mutual respect and communication, and if someone can't respect what you want or you can't respect what they want, they're not for you. Sometimes opinions clash or things don't work out, but that doesn't make anyone a bad person.

And if anyone such as friends or outsiders tells you how your relationship "should be" or how you "should act," tell them to stuff it. The only people that should be involved are you and your partner. Do what makes YOU happy, not what other people think you should do.

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Re: Gender roles? - May 26th 2015, 06:17 PM

IT is a weird inverse feminine thing. Typical feminist women like to see men move from one box to another. While Typical patriarchy men like everyone to stay in there boxes.

Me.. personally, I see the boxes as societal constructs and not "really" there.

It all depends on the person's comfort level with gender roles. But yeah, instead of assuming anything when it comes to a relationship, lay it all out and keep an open communication with your partner. "I prefer this. I like this... I would rather we do this..."

Just like ANYTHING in a relationship, communication is key.

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Re: Gender roles? - May 27th 2015, 12:37 AM

Despite these lovely comments, I am frankly just wanting to know the social psychology of why, not so much how they're wrong. I think that that much is fairly obvious. (Sorry if that sounds harsh; I tend to be rather blunt. I do not mean to offend.)
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