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Mixed up Emotions - September 27th 2015, 02:19 AM

**sorry this is so long but I really need help**

So there's this guy who I had a crush on two years ago, back in freshman year. Then, there was this problem with depression and a complication with my friend that was stressful but it's now solved. The point being, I stayed with him through something tough, despite him saying things he shouldn't have to me.

He also said really sweet things. One of those was Ich liebe dich (I love you in German). That's significant because he said that "love" is almost taboo in German, and you're only supposed to say it to the one or two people who mean the most to you. And he said it to me.

There's this other girl who he met last year, who is a lot like him. She has the same likes (and those involve old literature and bands not many people actually listen to anymore). Everyone ships them.

Now when he's with me, he does things that come out as flirtatious. He strokes my hair, sometimes holds my hand. When he's with her, I'm invisible. He's most likely going to ask her out soon, since she is allowed to date soon, and he's probably going to go to homecoming with her.

Ok now I don't want to say I'm jealous... but how do I cope with this so it doesn't bother me anymore? I don't even think I want to be in a relationship with him (I wouldn't be allowed to) but the fact that he said I mean the world to him... and this girl is actually the one who's clearly his world. And he still "flirts" with me.

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Re: Mixed up Emotions - September 27th 2015, 03:22 AM

We can't tell you how to feel, and no matter how you do feel your emotions are valid. I think you do need to talk to him though and find out what he wants, and if it's not you, ask him to stop flirting. If he does want this other girl, it's best to find out sooner than later so that you can move on and possibly cut of contact for a little while to do so. I'm sure you do mean the world to him though, just because he likes this other girl too doesn't change how he feels about you.

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