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Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 02:03 PM

Its getting me angry that bad guys get girls easy can any one explain this to me why


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 02:12 PM

There is no such thing.
Girls have different tastes.
Anyhow, have you considered that the so called "bad guys" are just very confident and can talk to girls and ask them out? That is often one thing that people miss.
Also if you're a "nice guy" but are boring, no girl is going to want to date you. Being nice to girls doesn't mean she is going to date you.
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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 02:16 PM

With bad guys i mean drug useing stealing guys


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 03:24 PM

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There is no such thing.
Girls have different tastes.
Anyhow, have you considered that the so called "bad guys" are just very confident and can talk to girls and ask them out? That is often one thing that people miss.
Also if you're a "nice guy" but are boring, no girl is going to want to date you. Being nice to girls doesn't mean she is going to date you.
Just think about it.
I would assume the OP is talking about the bad guys, not those who are simply confident and don't lurk in the background.

Men like drug addicts, women abusers and those who rape? Is that correct OP?
   
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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 03:52 PM

Well not rape but the other thing are true


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 04:14 PM

They don't.


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 04:20 PM

They don't. There's probably the odd girl who does, but mostly girls don't want to date guys who are so obviously bad news unless they themselves are bad news.




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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 07:56 PM

Like the other posters said, they don't. A decent girl wouldn't even go near those kind of vile ***holes.
   
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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 11:13 PM

Other people have pretty much gotten this, but yeah, it's not like girls go out looking for criminals. I think you're probably observing something wrong. There's also some media portrayal of girls going for "bad guys," but this is a bit of a stereotype and it's pretty inaccurate as far as real life goes, so I'd disregard that if you're factoring it into this.



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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 7th 2016, 11:25 PM

Not all girls truly know what type of guy they're signing up to be with, after all, we can't truly know someone. For example, a really shy, naive girl could meet what she thinks is the perfect guy for her. Someone who's kind, gentle and takes really good care of her. Once she gets to trust him, maybe he'll ask her to do the odd unusual favour here or there. Since he's playing off of her lack of confidence and/or self-esteem, and since she feels she's got a great catch of a guy, she'll do as he asks out of perhaps love and loyalty and eventually spiral down a more unpleasant route giving the look as if she was interested in 'bad guys' when really she met him as one type of person when he ended up being another.


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 8th 2016, 09:45 AM

Most girls don't go for bad guys, it's mainly media that has portrayed it like that. I can only reiterate what has been said before, most girls prefer someone good, and if they do go for a bad guy it's probably because they didn't realise at the beginning


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 8th 2016, 10:07 AM

Like the other users have said, every girl is different.

I personally don't like bad guys.


   
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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 8th 2016, 05:09 PM

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All girls are different as the others have already stated. Everyone has their own personal preference. Personally, I would prefer a nerdy/geeky guy to a bad boy any day of the week. Maybe some girls are attracted to 'bad boys' because it brings a sense of 'adventure' or 'rebelliousness' or 'spontaneity'.

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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 9th 2016, 02:51 AM

As others have said, everyone has different preferences but most girls do not prefer people they know are trouble. If I was interested in guys, I would definitely prefer the nerdy ones over the bad guys. I can prove that seeing as my last girlfriend was a nerd so we both obsessed over the same things. I prefer people that I can obsess over things with like tv shows, rather than people I know I am going to get home and be treated badly. To be fair, most people don't date people they know will abuse them, they seem nice and then turn violent, but girls don't prefer those people.

Try focusing on improving yourself, not by getting into drugs or becoming violent, but just get more confident in yourself and then you'll see people more interested. You're only 15 anyway, so you have plenty of time to find someone and mature in looks.


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 10th 2016, 01:41 AM

Maybe it's just me but I don't think that men using drugs are bad people just like women who use drugs does not make them bad. They are complex human beings and using drugs does not equal violent. That would be conflating. Secondly when you say bad I think constantly disrespectful, degrading, and abusive kind of bad. I don't know the exact psychology thing about this but supposedly, women or people more broadly, seek for partners who are either similar or different or a combination of both to their family members. So for instance if a person grew up with in an abusive home, it is likely they'd end up in an abusive intimate relationship. Let's say someone grew up in a home that emotions are seen as bad and not allowed to be expressed or felt or there will be punishment if someone does, the person may end up in a relationship who is very reserved about their emotions OR a person may end up in a relationship with someone who is very outwardly about their emotions. This is an oversimplification of it probably, so sorry for butchering the concept but you can research it, it's called mate selection in psychology.
   
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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 10th 2016, 04:56 PM

it just seems that way but most nice guys never make a move and they expect the girl to like him because he is nice to her which doesn't work like that
   
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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 10th 2016, 05:22 PM

Thanks for your podt


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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 10th 2016, 05:29 PM

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just ask the girl out on a date instead of hoping she might like you one day. if she says no then try with another girl there is so many girls out there and they all like different type of guys
   
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Probably because they are really cute and typical
   
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That's not necesiraily true
   
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Re: Why do girlslike bad guys - July 13th 2016, 09:54 PM

every girl is different, I like bad boys because they make me feel safe and dangerous at the same time, I just find I am more attracted to them and their behaviour such as shoving me hard against a wall and kissing me. but then again saying all that my fiancé isn't a bad boy at all and I love him
   
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