Friday night I was extremely intoxicated. Now, I own that choice as my own and that I have to suffer the consequences. However, seeing as I am someone who is overly friendly when they are drunk, my boyfriend's paranoid streak was kicking into overdrive that I would cheat on him. All his past girlfriend's have cheated on him, and he was furious with me all night because I said I had some guys hugging on me.
Now, we patched this up a little bit yesterday, but I can't help but feel there is still a slight rift between the two of us over what happened Friday. I also feel embarrassed because I am a smart, responsible young adult most of the time; I never get plastered. But now I am afraid he views me as an immature little kid (I'm a few years younger than him) who makes stupid decisions. How should I handle this? Do I just need to let it go? Or is there really something to be worried about?
"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?" "That depends a good deal on where you want to get to." "I don't much care where-" "Then it doesn't matter which way you go."
I wouldn't get worried about it, but do talk to your boyfriend. I'm the same way, overly friendly most of the time, and it is worrying for your other half, but reassure him that hugs don't mean anything special.
I doubt he sees you as being immature for getting drunk, everybody does it, and I'm sure he's been a lot worse. Good luck.
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i can tell you from experience, being on both sides; your boyfriends and then yours; that people simply do not like when others excuse their behavior due to intoxication. i understand it effects judgement, which you might mention to him, and possibly state you had a little too much to drink. but also tell him you understand why that situation bothered him due to his past with other girls and then if you think you did something wrong, own up to it and apologize.
my ex hated when i blamed stuff on me being wasted. and i realized i didn't like it either. i realized some of the things i did might have been insensitive to his situation, therefore maybe i should have apologized and admitted my mistakes.
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