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I feel like a need a boy to be happy... - June 26th 2009, 11:45 PM

ever since i started dating in 8th grade, i've felt like i needed a boyfriend in order to be happy. i get so down on my self when i'm single, and i tell myself really terrible things and fall back into some not-so-great habbits. i wish i didn't feel like this, but i can't help it. i just feel so great when i'm in a relationship, and then cmng out of one, i feel like the whole world is falling apart.
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Re: I feel like a need a boy to be happy... - June 27th 2009, 12:00 AM

Hey Sarah. First of all, you shouldn't be ashamed to feel this way, as I think that for a lot of people it's a normal feeling to be dependent on a relationship to be happy. However, if this is an issue to you and something that you do not like about yourself, there are ways that you can be less dependent on a relationship. For one thing, why not go through and try to think of the reasons why you feel happy in a relationship. The things about a relationship that simply seem to make you feel better about your life or yourself. Then think, or maybe even make a list, of all of the reasons you feel you cannot be happy when you're not in a relationship. Perhaps there are certain things in your life you feel you can only achieve when you are in a relationship. But remind yourself that you also need to think of all the good that comes from not being in a relationship. From day to day, try to do things for yourself that make you happy. Don't rely on someone else to buy or say something to you that makes you extremely happy that day. Go out and do something that puts a smile on your face, without anyone else's help. Perhaps if you do that kind of thing more often you will realize that you do not need to rely on someone else to bring you happiness, but that you yourself are perfectly capable of doing things to make yourself happy. Also, when you're not in a relationship, replace the time you would be spending with your boyfriend or girlfriend by hanging out with friends or anything else that makes you feel good. Maybe doing things like that will help you to realize that you can still be happy, even when you're not in a relationship? Best of luck





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Re: I feel like a need a boy to be happy... - June 27th 2009, 12:28 AM

You should be spending time making friends and creating memories with them, enjoying who you are and learning to love yourself. This way you still have on going "relationships" but of a kind that won't complicate you. Don'y rely on a relationship to make you happy, you need to be happy with yourself.





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