Tips for relationship success (other than communication)

DanceCommander

Well, after a long stint working in another state, my boyfriend will supposedly be home in a little less than two weeks. Part of me is SO worried something is going to "come up" or go wrong again and he will have to stay longer, but the other part of me is so excited he will finally be back!

The thing is, we have had a really rocky relationship while he has been away (which basically means its been rocky from the start, since he left only a few days into our relationship). When we are together, though, things generally go okay between us, so I am hoping they dont stay tough. Regardless, I was wondering what people's general tips for success in relationships were (OTHER than communication). When he gets back I want to start things off on a good, healthy note. Thanks for all your help, I appreciate it.

Pelios

My boyfriend and I usualyy go out at least once a week to places we enjoy like the movies and the park. Another thing we do is play video games like Wii, we both like it and you get to compete against eachother and have fun, plus you don't really need to talk while you play.

Nicolette

Spending time together bonding, wether its cooking together, snuggling on the couch, going to a movie, playing mini golf... keep things fresh and interesting.

mommieof2

My biggest thing is let the past go...A lot of people will have problems and then keep bringing them up which starts more fights. Of course like you said communication is a big thing, Spending time together, Enjoying each others company. Having a happy relationship is really rather simple. It takes some time to understand what the other person likes and dislikes. And certain topics or other things you should avoid. You have to make little changes for each other, compromise is a huge thing in a relationship. I'm rather stubborn and so is my husband but we have learned to work around each other lol.

I'm sure things will be fine, just be patient.

xxpaigiexx

Hey Jordan,
I hate to say it but communication is a big part of a healthy relationship both being able to speak to each other and voice your opinions and thoughts is very important.
You both have to feel comfortable with speaking to one another.
I think being spontaneous helps to keep a relationship alive, being able to randomly out of the blue do something fun together keeps things exciting.
Maybe when he's away you could try sending him packages to where ever he is, or cute little notes, I think more personalised types of communication really help when people are away and you don't get to see them in person. It helps make you feel closer to the person in question.
I think spending quality time together helps too, just to be together and just doing normal things like eating dinner together, chilling indoors with a DVD or something like that gives things a sense of normality.
Good luck and I hope you get things back on track, Paige x

LauraB

My boyfriend and I have had rocky parts in our relationship , because we're both gemini's and tend to " bump heads " lol. So, I'm going to tell you what him and I did. First, we communicated by telling eachother everything that was upseting us and just simply getting it out of the way. Than we figured out how we could fix those problems. We put the past behind us once it was all said and done. We haven't brought anything up since and we just have fun! Believe it or not, but by just going out or staying in and having a good time..makes it a lot better. We also don't talk as much on the phone because that was one of the reasons we'd fight haha.

01. Talk everything out
02. Try and come up with ways to fix the problems
03. Let it go, and drop the past.
04. Go out and have fun!

I-Love-him

go out to places together, romantic places like river side walks.
get interested in eachothers interests, for example if he likes a sport why not play a game of it with him?
talk,have hearts to heart, play cute games like hang man, have tickling fights,go on walks together.
things like that really.if i think of more i shall post them

ahh yes and do cute things together and for eachother.for example,write him a small note saying something you feel which is meaningful and nice. buy him something, make him something.

Lugez

I think all the above covered most things...Except one.

The only thing I can say is to be comfortable and confident with YOURSELF. If you can do that, then any problems that may arise will be easy to take care of. How you are with yourself is a great indicator of how your relationships turn out.

One last thing: It's cliched, I know, but just "go with the flow!" If you worry too much, something may go wrong.

tk338

I personally if a relationship is a chore to keep together, then whats the point? :/ However you DO have to work, everyone has to put a bit into their own relationship, time and thought, and just spend time together, go out new places, do new things together

Gaia · *14-04-2010. R.R <3*

I do agree that relationships shouldn't have to have so much work that they turn into a chore, but every relationship needs a little work. You need to be able to put yourself in their shoes to be able to understand them, and grow together. Attention and of course communication is important. Be attentive towards each other and share your life. You can't have a working relationship if you keep too much to yourself, it would just be a lie that way.
That's really just the basics, but that's what makes the relationship work, you don't need gifts or fancy outings to keep the relationship fresh, just a little care and attention [: