Cloudy with a chance of WTF

[RollingThunder]

Weeeell now.. here we are. Back in the familiar confines of this box. Blurting my inner thoughts to an unknown public. Regardless of this fact, it has assisted me in past times. So why not now? I'm afraid when I rant I leave little to structure and grammar. It may be rough to read..short or long..who knows. I'm just gunna go off..and we'll see where it goes eh?

Shelby, how can I explain? Started bout four years ago. Hugest crush ever on her, nothing happened though. Through highschool became REALLY close. Always assumed that we were always going to be just friends..that changed!

This will be divided into two parts..the WEE! part and the ERM.. part
WEE! = GOOD!
ERM.. = BAD!

WEE!
Found out a few days ago she considers me possably to be more than a friend. She is single now and I was F*CKIN PSYCHED! So we have been hanging out and it's TOTALLY awesome cuz she really seems to enjoy my company!

ERM..
Alas I am not sure if it is like..official. She usually dances about a few boys before choosing one for a committed relationship. Right now I am not sure if I am the only one she considers. I don't wanna set my hopes too high on supports like that..bad tumble if it turns out false, eh?

WEE!
Hung out yesterday, slept over into today with two others! AMAZING OMG SUPER AWESOME YAHOO! We cuddled the WHOLE night and into morning. Shelby and I talked and cuddled and talked while cuddling and talked and it was AMAZING! I explaimed my feelings for her and she told me she dreamed of me and how she thinks it could work! I FEEL LIKE I COULD KISS PEOPLE! ALL PEOPLE!

ERM..
She wants to get to know me more..she says. That's all well and good..I'm willing to go at whatever pace makes her comfortable, dig? However I have this evil little birdie telling me she has other people..and she is still choosing. CURSE YOU EVIL CONSCIENCE BIRDIE!

WEE!
Just..the feeling know? That leap of joy you get when you look into that other's eyes and know you really care. That she is the one for you right now? That pure bliss? I felt it..I loved it..I need more of it. It's so amazing!

ERM..
She told me she was not a virgin. I sorta thought that but it still wierds me out. No matter how many times I say it's no big deal..I still feel kinda odd about that. Just found out today. Ah well..won't effect my love for her. Just..kinda odd, follow me?



So that's bout it here. Shelby..liked her for EVER and now have a chance. Held her for hours today and experienced bliss that of which I haven't felt for ages. Just..amazing stuff, know? I can't say that I love her yet..that would be too bold. But I sure as hell like her more than a friend definately. I think there is hope here folks! I really do! I gotta go prance about the house in pure bliss now..stay chill ya'll!

-Ryan

[DeadlySin]

HAHAAH Okay I must say:
1. Awesome subject title. Totally caught my attention.
2. I love how you seperated the WEEE and ERM it was awesome.
3. I just think you are awesome.

Okay now to reply to the actually feeling beneith the awesome text.

Wee#1-First off thats, great! When a girl thinks of you more than a friend there is good possiblities there.

Erm #1-Its not uncommon for girls to be like that. We wonder about a few guys to find the one that just catches our attention and sticks. We don't want to make any sudden or stupid decisions. But that is true, don't get TOO excited that you end up being crushed in the end.

Wee #2- That is really sweet. She must be into you, to allowed you to cuddle with her and just talk. Personally, I wouldn't let just ANY guy do that with me. I would have to have really deep feelings for him. For a girl to openly admit she has dreamed about you, is kinda big in my opinion. It took me months before I could admit that to my boyfriend. But again, that was sweet. =)

Erm #2- Again, that's understandable. She probably wants to make sure she is falling for someone who will actually catch her. Or someone she can see herself with, and can make her happy. Don't assume she does, but then again she may have other guys. It would make sense for her to have options so she can make the right choice in the end.

Wee #3- I can see you will fall in love with her. =) If you do end up in a relationship, it's obvious you would be perfect for her. So I am wishing you luck right now!

Erm #4- I understand how you can feel a bit ehhh about it. But not every girl will be a virgin. Don't let it bother you too much. Just try to accept it. You can't change it.

Overall, I hope I did semi help sort out some feelings or make sense of them. I also hope everything goes well and you get the girl. =)

Again, GOOD LUCK!

[Robin]

The Harsh Reality:

Ok lets say you get together......Dont think of it as lasting, no matter what she says keep your guard up for atleast 3 months. make sure your prepeared for every event. i know recently when i thought a girl loved me and she managed to do it, randomly i come home and find "im too good for her" she nearly ended it, but things arent the same.... just make sure you dont allow her to get a clear shot at your heart

i hope it works, its nice to see nice guys like you who have the confidence to do it and get the rewards at the end.

I hope it goes well and she doesnt hurt you

Good luck
-Robin

[RollingThunder]

Bridget: Excellent response! I love how you take each of my points piece by piece. I wanted that, and you delivered. Well done! As for the actual points themselves..you had some pretty solid ideas. A few notes:

1. The whole virgin thing..I'm over it. It just took me off guard..but frankly it dosen't really matter. She loved him..and it was after they had been together for a year and a half. So I understand. If that is the worst I have to complain about thus far I am doin well.

2. I recall a friend of hers saying she made out with another guy a week ago. This was before I expressed my careing for her and the events of this weekend, so I think little of it. Still it's in my head, dig?

3. YOU ARE AWESOME TOO! Heh the format came to me randomly so I went with it. But I'm random, so love it or leave it. :P


Robin: I sense experience in your words. First off..I'm sorry dude. At a younger age I had the..displeasure..of being crushed, cheated on, and shoved aside. It's not fun..at all..in any way..ever. Still..if it were to happen again I know it would hurt even more..being older and more involved.

Still, I appreciate the advice. I will indeed keep a fallback position. A place where I know I can stand should everything else fall apart. I discovered the "Fallback Position" theory a few years ago when I was a bit..messed up. It has helped me a BAGILLION TIMES over. I think I might wanna share this theory on the forums here..others may benefit.. GAR, still this is about your post. Thanks for the advice..I'll keep my guard up mate.



Thank you both so much! Now I remember why I came here long ago. Cuz of people like you!

[DeadlySin]

*sigh of relief*
Im glad I helped!
I thought I was just going off and babbling too myself a few times.
Hahaha and thanks =P

[twk.]

Originally Posted by RollingThunder

ERM..
She told me she was not a virgin. I sorta thought that but it still wierds me out. No matter how many times I say it's no big deal..I still feel kinda odd about that. Just found out today. Ah well..won't effect my love for her. Just..kinda odd, follow me?

hi, just thought i'd help explain here, i know the feeling, and it's very difficult to explain. I know from a female P.O.V This looks shallow etc but its a weird feeling and hard to explain.

When you find out the girl you love isn't a virgin, it's like a small part dissapointment, that she's already had that special event with someone else, but you still love her the same.

The fact is if you two do get together, and do end up getting to that point in your relationship, every time you have sex should be special, not just the first.

It's an amazing thing to be with someone you love and you should think no less of it, because as Bridget said not every girl is going to be a virgin, and as you get older you'll experience this more and more.

[RollingThunder]

I love her no less. Something as small as that could NEVER ruin how much she means to me. Just a bit odd at first but I'm over it now. Thanks though, mate!

[-Mind-Freak-]

Ahah, so this is probably not gonna be helpful at all but I loved this post! I think the WEE and ERM part were so cute, and it sounds like you really care for her - she's a lucky lady! It's so great to feel like that innit? If I felt like that atm I would probably prance around in pure bliss as well and pounce on everyone while having a silly grin on my face! haha.

Newayz, don't worry about the "other people" she wants to get to know YOU better, so try not to think too much about it, then again as Bridget said it's not okay to get TOO excited either, but sounds like things are going really good! I also had a crush on someone through ALL of High School, so kudos to you for having this chance of being more than friends!

[RollingThunder]

Thanks! We are hanging out tomorrow so it'll be awesome. She told me that right now we are still good friends. She wants to get to know me better before it becomes official. Basically..what I think/hope is that the only outcome is she accepts me or denies me. In the meantime though I think I'm her focus. Wee!