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Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 03:12 AM

So I was talking to my boyfriend, whom I thought I could trust, and he mentioned about staying out with a girl. When I asked whom she was, he got really defensive, and I found out who this girl was. I asked her, and she didn't know that he was dating me. They've been sleeping together, and blah, it makes me so mad. I know by the expression in this text, I don't seem very upset, but trust me, I am. I'm am so angry that he just had no consideration for my feelings. So obviously, I broke up with him. Then he texts me, asking if we can get back together about two hours later. I know it's not a good idea to get back together, but I still kind of have feelings for him, and I can't ignore them. So what do you think?


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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 03:29 AM

hell no!

if you get back with him you're just gunna let him think that he can do whatever he wants then click his fingers and you'll come running back to him. he'll only do this to you again and you'll end up getting hurt again. i'm all for giving people second chances, but only when they deserve them. someone who sleeps with another girl on more than one occasion behind your back in my opinion doesn't deserve a second chance. if this was just a one off thing and it was a huge mistake and he was doing everything in his power to prove to you how much he loves you and how sorry he is then, maybe i would say consider giving him another chance.. but in this situation, no.

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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 03:31 AM

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hell no!

if you get back with him you're just gunna let him think that he can do whatever he wants then click his fingers and you'll come running back to him. he'll only do this to you again and you'll end up getting hurt again. i'm all for giving people second chances, but only when they deserve them. someone who sleeps with another girl on more than one occasion behind your back in my opinion doesn't deserve a second chance. if this was just a one off thing and it was a huge mistake and he was doing everything in his power to prove to you how much he loves you and how sorry he is then, maybe i would say consider giving him another chance.. but in this situation, no.

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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 03:31 AM

He doesn't respect you, so why should you respect him? Caring about someone is one thing, but you entrust them with your body and your heart, when they clearly don't care about you? It's not worth it. I know that it really sucks right now, but believe me, you're better off without him, and you'll be so happy when you find someone worth being with later on. =)

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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 03:43 AM

No, Why do you want to give him another chance?


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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 03:54 AM

Hey there,

It can be difficult when you still have feelings for someone after they've hurt you so much. However, try to consider, logically, what's best for you right now. Do you feel that it is healthy to get back into such a relationship so soon? Will the sure mistrust put a strain on you emotionally?

Give it some thought, do not make a decision now. Get some sleep, maybe take a few days to think. There is no rush here.

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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 03:59 AM

Personally, I think it would take the mother of all apologies - in person, with flowers - before you should give him a second chance. He hurt you, badly, and from the sounds of it he didn't even apologize. And he didn't have the nerve to talk to you in person afterward either.

Verdict: loser, dump him, move on to something better.

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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 04:02 AM

I voted 'no.' Pretty much, just exactly what Elle said. He had his chance and he blew it. He has shown you his true colors, he'll just hurt you again, don't give him that chance.

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Re: Lovely Night. - January 8th 2010, 04:47 AM

Honestly, I def. don't think you should get back together or give him another chance, he got what was coming and he deserved it, he's a douche,obviously. Like elle said, you deserve so much better than that and deserves to be treated better, for someone to treat me like that, obviously that someone doesn't get my respect. End of it. You won't regret leaving him, it's the right thing and someday you'll find someone worth being with. Take care! =]





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Re: Lovely Night. - January 9th 2010, 03:34 AM

No way, girlfriend! Get over this boy, now!
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Re: Lovely Night. - January 9th 2010, 03:45 AM

he didnt show any respect towards you the first time..
he doesnt deserve a second chance..
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Re: Lovely Night. - January 9th 2010, 04:11 AM

Yeah, I just still kind of liked him I guess? I know it's weird. I don't anymore though. Just so you all know, I ended up saying no. It just wouldn't make sense, logically, and I don't want to be hurt again.

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Re: Lovely Night. - January 9th 2010, 04:54 AM

Good for you


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Re: Lovely Night. - January 9th 2010, 07:16 AM

Glad to see the issue was resolved. =) Closing this thread now.


   
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