Female Advice Preferred: School Relationships (How to end it once and for all )

[naenae1616]

Well, i'm 15 and i used to go out with a boy the same age as me but in the year group above me. So basically we went out for about three months and well i know it sounds bad but it turned out i didn't really like him that much in the 1st place so yh i eventually eneded it and i said that i think we should just be friends then things were ok but then he has recently started calling me and asking me what he thinks about us getting back together
erm... HELLO !! i dont get it is it just me or is he not supposed to ask or at least think about why i ended it in the 1st place?

And well he's what you would describe as a good guy he's smart and stuff and he has a bit of a sense of humour but he generally quite boring and deppressing to be honest and when we were going out he knew that i didnt want the people in my year group to know yet he insisted on putting his arms round me all the time at some birthday event my friends are genrealy telling me i'm being unfair and i should take him back but thier not listening to the fact that I DONT WANT TO !

In my opinion he just wants to be in a realtionship and he got used to the whole thing but he doesnt really care abowt me so what's the point why cant we just move on

And i know the obviuse answer is to just tell him exactly what i think but i cant because he tell his freinds everything and then all my friends in his year group wont like me anymore. I've said we should be friends already
I dont know what to do anymore and no one know that i'm depressed and stuff and it's like i'm already really struggling with trying to cope and trying to concentrate in school

I really dont need all of this can someone please help ?

[bitesize]

Don't take him back ~ it's ovbious to me that you don't want to be with him, so whatever you do you shouldn't be pressured into doing something you really don't want to do. He shouldn't be trying to guilt trip you into it. It sounds like he likes you quite a bit, but he's having trouble accepting that you don't want to be with him.
Maybe were you a little vague with him when you ended it?? Often when I lose interest in someone I feel uncomfortable admitting that to their face so I can get a bit vague about why I don't want to be with them anymore, and they can have trouble getting the message, so I know how you feel.
Try to put yourself in his place ~ if you really liked someone but were sonfused as to why they didn't seem to want to be with you anymore, you'd probably want to hear the honest truth, but not in too much of a harsh way, right?? Don't worry about what he might say to his friends ~ thee's no reason for them not to like you anymore if you're decent enough about telling him your feelings. Just explain to him that you don't really feel the same way that you did ~ and it's nothing that he did or anything ~ and you could maybe do with a little space for a while. If he's mature enough he'll understand that and back off.
Good luck (:

[Nicolette]

Tell him you don't want a relationship with him, or even that you're not ready for one. If you're afraid of losing friends that are in his year group then they weren't friends to begin with. Having his guy in your life shouldn't be stressing you out and since its gotten to that point cut the strings and let him know you're just not interested.

[-.Katelyn.-]

Remind him again, why you ended things in the first place. Tell him you're just not interested him anymore, and you don't want a relationship with him, although it's nothing that he did to make you feel that way. Whatever you do, do not take him back. Obviously you don't have feelings for him. Only get involved with someone that you're into and have feelings for. Best of luck (:

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey Nataliie,
You should stick to your guns. There is no point being with someone you're not really interested in, it wouldn't be fair to you or your ex.
You need to explain to him why you don't want to be with him, obviously you have to pretty it up just say you think the two of you are better suited to being friends and you don't really think a relationship really was working between the two of you. The more honest with him you can be the better because then he is going to be more likely to get the hint and understand he has no chance of getting back with you but may aswell accept friendship as opposed to nothing whatsoever.

I hope things work out for you,
Paige xox

[naenae1616]

Thank you evryone the situation is kinda sorted now (i think)
cos i was online on msn and he didnt say anything so i went off then my friend was talking to him and she told him how i feel in ''confidence'' and he was like yh he understands were i'm cummin from and stuff but he is still sending me texts erm... i guess in a friendship way but i dont know and it's like basicalli i cant bring up the convo between him and my friend cos it was meant to be private but i think things are ok now

Thankyou ,xxx