long distance relationship

RandomNutta · **long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 10:04 AM

Hello, i am just wondering does long distance relationship always fails even though you two have put a lot of effect into making this relationship works. I am curious because i have heard from a few people and on forum that long distance relationship always fails and it is properly a waste of your time.
can someone tell me actually does it really fail even though you love someone whom isn't anywhere near you? i am just curious and confused.

Gaia · *14-04-2010. R.R <3*

It depends how long distant you are talking.
My boyfriend lives a couple of hours away from me, and we cope fine, though it is quite easy for us to meet.
However if it includes plane flights or crossing seas, I do think it would be harder.
Ultimately it's not down to the places, or how often you see each other, its how you and your partner are able to cope without seeing each other.
It's to do with if you could both be faithful to each other. Personally, I'm coping fine. But others may not. It's your point of view that saves the relationship, not the statistics.
Lou.

RandomNutta · **Re: long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 10:38 AM

thanks for the response, well she is lets say ocean apart and she is coping fine but sometimes she wants him to be here when she knew he couldn't. She 100% trust him and is very faithful to him but on the other hand she doesn't know if he is, he sound like he is being loyal but sometimes you could have broken the rules. she and him believe their relationship would last forever and longer but school is getting in the way for them to talk. they believe there would be more obstacle in the way for them to talk but they will get through it however not able to be there for each other makes them more lonely.

iHEAVENn · **Re: long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 10:53 AM

They do not ALWAYS fail.

I met my husband while he was living in Oregon, and I was in California.

We talked online as friends for several months.. Then after a nasty breakup (we were both with other people at the time we first started talking and we both we through nasty breakups right around the same time)
We decided to try and give a relationship a chance... So the day after Christmas 2006 I flew up to meet him... and now our 2 year wedding anniversary is coming up in April.

So long distance relationships CAN work as long as both partners are committed to making them work. It's hard, and very stressful but sometimes worth it.

RandomNutta · **Re: long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 11:32 AM

thank you for your response, well she is pretty much committed and talks/thinking about him 24/7 that i know of, but i am not quite sure if he is tho. he might seems like it but she really wants it to work plus she might be flying over to meet him for a month or two. she always talks about how she wants to stay with him over for long but she can't because of the country allowing a foreigner staying there too long. But i am quite happy that i know at least someone who has been in a long distance relationship got married and live happily.

ThrashAttack · **Re: long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 12:20 PM

ive just came out of a long distance relationship, i can tell you that it ends with heart-break most of the time.

trust me..

BrittneyNicole · **Re: long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 12:23 PM

They definitely do not ALWAYS fail. My girlfriend and I are kind of in a long-distance relationship in the aspect that I'm away at uni and she is at home. But, I do go home every weekend so it works. But if both parties really work at it, then they can work.

romantaholic · **Re: long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 12:32 PM

I've been in my fair share of long distance relationships (thanks to my father's wonderful job which has us hopping from one country to the next every few years) and for the most part, yes, a lot of them have ended up in heartbreak. But then what relationship when you're in your teens doesn't? Haha.

Anywho, currently I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy who used to go the same high school as me -- now he's in London studying to be a chef and I'm still in Vienna going to school. But we talk on Skype every night for a couple of hours and he's planning to come down and visit in three weeks as well as come down for my graduation, and I'm planning to be there for my birthday this summer. So far, everything's going great. It's just how well you're able to cope being apart and how long you're willing to wait for the other person.

I hope everything works out for your friend. :]

RandomNutta · **Re: long distance relationship -** February 2nd 2009, 12:50 PM

thanks again for the responses.well the friend of mine is planning to see him at the end of December sometime(to singapore)for his 18th birthday and to spend time with him, although she really wants to stay there longer and i can see why. too bad their government doesn't allow a forniger to stay there too long plus she might consider moving there and have a flesh start but of course she haven't told her family and parents about it which i think they would give her negative comments and stops her from going there as well. she once said to me that she wants to be there for his 18th birthday because it's a very special time and he'll always always remember because him turning 18 and else she was able to be there for his birthday, spending time with him.