Single VS Relationship?

[Hollifire]

I'm not sure if a thread like this already exists, so if it does, feel free to close it. :]

If you had to pick one of the two, would you rather be single or in a relationship? It's a simple question, but yet everyone I've asked, it's taken them a long time to respond. I mean would you rather just have a lot of fun, and have numerous guys you can talk to/flirt with/date... Or would you rather be in a long term relationship?

For me, I'd definitely choose a relationship. Sure there are times where I miss being single, but I'm the happiest when I'm with someone that I know loves me, and I love them. It's a secure feeling, and when someone says 'I love you.' to you, it's the most amazing feeling in the world. =)

Let me know what you guys think! <3 xx

[VanishingActs]

Hello =)

Personally, I find it hard to give a definite answer because it really does depend on the person you are with. You have to be 100% happy in the relationship, is what I am getting at.

If I had to go either way I would choose the relationship - it's about having that security, trust and special bond. I've tried the hopping from guy to guy single thing and its really not all it's cracked up to be. I did it because something was missing, and I figured out what it was, starting focussing on sorting myself out, and now Im all good (sort of)!

Sometimes it can be good to have a little time to yourself without anyone at all I think, it just really depends on what works for you.

*stops rambling*

Vicki

[Voldemort]

Hmm...
I do like the idea of being in a relationship, or at least I think I do.
But I really don't want to be in one.
I can't see myself in one at all.
I'd say single, it's so much easier. (I'm also too lazy.)
I would be too paranoid about them wandering off with another, I'd probably look like a complete stalker, texting them every minute of the day and what not.
So yeah, SINGLE-DOM for me.

[dr2005]

In the long run I'd rather be in a relationship - it's about the connection you have with that person, and also in the future I'd like to try and settle down with someone. That said, having only recently come out of a relationship I'm quite happy to do the single thing and see a bit more of life before getting to the settling down stage - I'm only 22 after all.

[Nicola]

I have no problem being single, but I think I'll choose relationship. xD

[in/flux]

Originally Posted by VanishingActs

Hello =)

Personally, I find it hard to give a definite answer because it really does depend on the person you are with. You have to be 100% happy in the relationship, is what I am getting at.

Exactly. I'm in a wonderful relationship now, so I would hate to be single again! But, if I were to be in a relationship riddled with problems, then I think single is the best way to go. Ultimately, there are good sides to being single and good sides to being in relationship. I think it all does just come down to whether you're with the right person or not.

[don'tstopbelievin]

I'm single right now and well.. if it ain't broke don't fix it applies I guess.
I'm comfortable and happy being single and the idea of a relationship scares me a little.
I have no time for a boyfriend either. Seriously my days start at 10am or 11am every morning and finish at 8pm every night except for the weekend when I work til 1am. I barely get to see my friends or socialise. If I had a boyfriend I'd be giving up any free time I had. No thank you, not right now. Maybe when I graduate.

[Work_In_Progress]

Like Elle(dontstopbelievin) said, I'm too busy to be having a partner. I might be doing a bit of travelling during the Summer, following that I'll be in University, knowledge comes first! I'm looking for a 2nd part-time job, so that'll be harsh to juggle two schedules with 2-3 shifts each. I've got some hobbies that I am doing and having a partner would just conflict with that. I'm also happy and content just being in love with myself, I'm even thinking of marriage one day with myself!(joking ) I honestly don't know what I'd do with a girlfriend, it would be like "Oh, you're my girlfriend.. Isn't that rad?"

[bitesize]

I really don't know why it's so hard for me to find an answer to this. I'll have to come back to it...

[Elizabeth]

Relationship. I love my boyfriend to death. I've struggled with some things over the past year, and if I didn't have him to lean on, I'm not sure how my life would be right now. It is nice to have someone to walk down life's path with you and it helps you learn about yourself.

[Lost_Confused]

Single, actually.

I'm single right now and well.. if it ain't broke don't fix it applies I guess.
I'm comfortable and happy being single and the idea of a relationship scares me a little.

Agreed.

[Melody Pond]

Originally Posted by don'tstopbelievin

I'm single right now and well.. if it ain't broke don't fix it applies I guess.
I'm comfortable and happy being single and the idea of a relationship scares me a little.

Relationship.
I have been in a relationship for nearly 3 years and being single scares me a little.

[Xujhan]

I'd choose a relationship any day of the week.

[PlayingPretend]

Originally Posted by bitesize

I really don't know why it's so hard for me to find an answer to this. I'll have to come back to it...

I hear you, and I'm very happy with my current relationship.

My guess would be that for me, personally, it's being scared of the commitment that comes along with it. It's my first relationship, first kiss, first time doing anything sexual that wasn't online, etc. and it's terrifying. That fear makes me want to run back to the comfort zone of being single, being able to hop from guy-to-guy and do it "without getting my heart broken," etc., but I honestly couldn't be happier than I am right now. I'm very much in love with my partner, he's very much in love with me, and the mutual feelings we share for each other are incredible. There are pros and cons to each - being in a relationship and being single - so I guess I'd say that, at this point in time, as much as I love being in my relationship, as much as I love my boyfriend, my past would lead me to adjust to being single or to being in a relationship. Regardless of the situation, I think I can safely say I'd choose no one lifestyle over the other - odd as that may be....

[Pelios]

Right now I'll pick single over a relationship any day. I'm finally enjoying my single life for once in a long time
So single.

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

Although I wasnt bothered being single, when I was single. Now that I'm in a relationship I think I prefer that, I like his company, I love the bond and connection, and the fact that I can talk to him about anything. I've learned a lot about me and other people also.

[Ambiance]

I wouldn't give up the I Love You's and stories I haven't heard before and sneak-attack hugs in the hallway for anything.

[queenofthedamned]

It depends on the type of single lifestyle you lead and/or the person you are in a relationship with.

I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone I'm not compatible with emotionally or intellectually.

So on the whole, I'd rather be single. I'm independent and confident. In the end, we just have ourselves anyway.

[Brandon]

At my age, having a relationship is the least of my concerns. I don't care for them, nor do I want a relationship. I learned to live without them, so single is the way to go for me.

[Superstar]

If it was with the right person at the right time, I would choose relationship. There is a certain connection present when you are sharing your life, learning and growing together, facing challenges and sharing happy moments, that is unlike any other on this earth, and I wouldnt trade it for the world.

[crmzchan]

Difficult question... Currently being single I would of course say I'd rather be in a relationship, but I suppose it depends whether it was the right person. I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone I didn't love. I don't mind being single anyway - it means me and my best friend Liz can talk about guys all the time without feeling guilty

[DeadlySin]

Relationship. =)
But being single can have its upsides. hehe

[Chelsea.]

Relationship.
but it really does depend who your with, i wouldnt choose to be single with the relationship im in now, but there are relationships ive been in before that i was dying to get out of and just have some fun.

[tk338]

Less than a week ago, I was in an 11 month long relationship, but got out, it was all getting serious, and its made me wonder what I prefer... I always want to seem to be with someone, maybe it was just she wasn't right for me? All these questions in my head ... Ultimately a few days on and apart from feeling slightly alone I'm good, so for me; for now; single please! I want to meet the right person next time please

[Jocelyn.]

For this question I'd like to quote "the grass is always greener on the other side" as my answer please Whenever I'm single I want a boyfriend, and when I'm with someone I dream of my single days. Honestly though, I really like having someone to come home to everyday even if our relationship isn't even close to perfect. And in my relationship we trust each other to not go out and screw around... so we can have our "single" nights where we hang with friends as long as the objective isn't to go out and pick someone up.

[C0co]

Originally Posted by Xujhan

I'd choose a relationship any day of the week.

Agreed.

Being single does have its advantages, but I would rather be in a relationship.

[Magic.]

I enjoy being single, but I'm better in a relationship. I tend to go for guys I am very comfortable with and in every relationship we've both flirted with others - casually not dating or anything. So yes. Relationship.

[WillO'Wisp]

I don't mean to offend anyone by saying this, but I would prefer to be in a relationship rather than running around and having fun with numerous guys because frankly, I find that quite slutty and degrading to yourself.

[tk338]

Originally Posted by Dragon.Kingdom

I don't mean to offend anyone by saying this, but I would prefer to be in a relationship rather than running around and having fun with numerous guys because frankly, I find that quite slutty and degrading to yourself.

To simply respond to your point (: Just because your single doesn't mean you do have to go rushing around seeing loads of people, I don't plan (plan figuring quite heavily here ) on getting with anyone anytime soon whether it be too just hook up or get seriously involved, I rather want to build my life so I'm ready for that person who I can share time with, and do all the 'independent' things... That said there are a lot of people who do use the ststus 'single' to 'get around' lol

[losing touch.]

i like both.

it depends what point i am at in my life as to whether i want to be in a relationship or not. if you ask me now then i'd say single but if you ask me in 10 years i'm sure i'll want to be in a relationship. it all depends on the circumstances really.

[chanelxo]

Yeah it depends,i have to be in a good place in my life to have someone else be in it,right now would be a good time.But being single i liked that i didn't have to think about the other person 24/7 but i also liked being with someone it filled the loneliness.

That being said i always tell myself "i'd rather be single,then have to deal with being heart broken."

[hopefaithlove]

Long term relationship.

I'm currently single and enjoying the dating aspect of life, but it would be nice to have one person who I care for and who cares for me. It's also nice only having to worry about myself lol. But in the end, I would definitely choose relationship.

[TheNumber42]

Relationship for sure, but only with the right person. I'd rather be single than have a relationship just for the sake of having it. Luckily that's not at all my situation right now and I love my girlfriend with all of my heart <3

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

I agree with Cody. I would much rather have a relationship but it has to be with the right person. And, from watching others around me, if you are with the right person you can have lots of fun with that person. Hang out with each others friends, hang out alone, 'party' together etc. In my opinion it is when you are not with the 'right' person that there is no fun and being in a relationship seems more like a 'punishment' or a 'chore'.

A good relationship has a combination of things and what not. Mutual respect and mutual understanding. Knowing what is important to each person and respecting that.

This probably makes no sense. I think I might be babbling

[Imagine]

Relationship, with the right person of course

[Rhop101]

I would be in a relationship because up until I was in a relationship I wasn't talking with any of my friends and was busy and lonely all the time. I used to have a friend I would talk to everyday and I liked her but then we stopped talking and I got lonely because I had no one to talk to ever no one to share moments of happiness or despair. If I was happy about something there was no one to tell this to that really cared when I was single.

I think this depends on what type of a person you are stay at home or partier.

[Lynnnnn]

don't get me wrong...i love my boyfriend we have been in a relationship for two years now and its great..
but so was single life! haha
i guess they both have they're perks

[Gymnophoria]

Right now, I'd much rather be single.
It hurts way too much not to be, hopefully I won't make the same mistake again

[Agent P]

I'm not exactly sure. I'd probably go with being in a relationship, because you could always just spend some time in a different room from the other person without being single.

[Ellie]

Ah, that's actually such a hard question! I really don't know. My friend reckons I'm 'too free a spitit to be in a relationship' I think she's kinda right aswell. I couldn't hack a relationship. I'd like it but at the same time it would make me feel trapped. So, after a lot of debating [] I think I prefer being single!