Dating A Friends Ex.

[mοοt !Εр8рui8Vw2 ##]

Well I've been talking to my friends ex and we're pretty close I guess, and shes kind of falling for me, and I'm not 100% sure if I'm ready, I wanna get to know her a lot better and such. But would dating his ex cause a problem in my friendship? I mean he's cool now that their broken up, she was really torn up and I've been there for her, and shes kind of formed an attraction to me. Should I go for it or should I stay back and wait? Or just not go at all?

[Superstar]

If you are not sure about entering a relationship, it's best not to enter one until you are ready. Thats the first thing that comes to mind, so right off the bat its a no-go there. Also, though, you say she formed an attachment while you helped her with the break up. That doesnt exactly sound...healthy. It sounds like she latched on to the first person that was there for her, or she may even be trying to get back at her ex by liking you. Either way, its a questionable situation. I would leave the relationship question, especially if you are already unsure about it.

[DeadlySin]

I'd ask your friend first.
Just because it didn't work out with him doesn't mean it couldn't work out for you?
I know most people say its bad, but you could be missing out on a chance to get to know someone really great.
I admit it could make the relationship between you and your friend awkward.
Just ask him first if it's okay.
If not, decide whether his friendship or the girl is more important.
If he says yes, just don't get all friendly with his ex girl in front of him or talk about her to him.
Just try to keep it on the DL.
Then it should be okay. =)

[Work_In_Progress]

I'd never do it personally. Even if it were an ex of someone that used to be my friend. Two friends that I used to hang out with said that if their girlfriends were to ever date one of their friends, that it'd be me. It's a matter of honor and respect(for myself). If you still have doubts you shouldn't act on it at all just yet and clarify things with your friend just like DeadlySin suggested.

Good luck to you!

[Brandon]

It depends on your friend. If my friend dated my ex girlfriend, I'd be like...well, good luck with that. Have fun with those sloppy seconds. But I guess it could potentially ruin the relationship. You should talk to him about it, because if he finds out and you don't tell him...you'll be in more shit than if you were upfront with him in the first place.

[mοοt !Εр8рui8Vw2 ##]

Yeah, I don't think I'm going to because well she really is just looking for someone similar to him, and well me and him are best friends and are mainly the same on many levels...plus he said she was kind of, well crazy and he advised me himself not to do it. So I think this relationship is not for me. I'm still going to try and be friends with her and be there to help pull her through he break up.

[aleciar]

I wouldn't do it personally. I advice you to be first and foremost, be upfront and honest with your friend about your intentions.

[kelsey-marie]

Well for now, I would just wait. I have two friends who were really close then one dated the other's ex because she said it was cool with her but it really wasn't. And even though they're cool now, they're not nearly as close as they once were nor do I ever think they can be again because the trust was broken in my friend's eyes. If you know for sure its cool and you like the girl, then when the times right go for it. But like I said wait a little bit.