Cheating!

[Black Rose]

look im with a boy for 5 years now and ive cheated on him 4 times! i mean i had sex 4 times and not once with him. i really love this guy but i also love the guy i had sex with. one lives with me in my city and even goes to my school and the guy ive dated for 5 years lives in wisconcion a whole 12 hours from me. we may get together for prom but im afraid its not enough. all i can do tonight is think bout the guy i had sex with. not my boyfriend at all. i want to have sex with him again and i dont want to hurt my boyfriend so what do i do?

[PlayingPretend]

Break-up with your boyfriend. o.o You're obviously not happy in the relationship, you seem to want to be with the guy you're having sex with now, and frankly... It's not fair to do this to your boyfriend. Yeah, a break-up'll hurt him, but you're going to hurt him more in the long run when he discovers how often you've cheated on him.

[LaFin]

It sounds like you're not committed to the relationship at all. I think you need to take a step back and think about why you're with him, if you can't think of any good reasons then maybe it's time to move on?

[EightEleven91]

This may come across as harsh
You dont want to hurt your boyfriend? Too late for that!
You've caused enough damage, not only to the 'relationship' but to yourself. Wheres your respect for your 'boyfriend' and wheres the self respect?!
You dont 'love' your boyfriend. You dont know what love is. Ok, once? Fair enough, we all make mistakes. Any more and that just signals that you dont LOVE your boyfriend.
If you arent ready to be comitted to somebody because you'd rather be an easy ride for some boy then get out of the relationship.

[Elle.]

break up with your boyfriend and tell him the truth. if you really want to be with this other guy then pursue that, but for gods sake stop cheating on your boyfriend. it's not fair on him.

[Jaguar]

Why do you consider one guy your boyfriend and have sex with another?

[St.Vincent]

Guys, Dan, ok--I don't think it's fair to attack the OP. This is teenhelp.

I think that if you're really wanting to have sex with one guy, then it's not going to be healthy for you to be like "I'm with this guy, but I'm wanting to do that guy" because then I think you'll never enjoy being with either guy--and you'll just feel guilty and bad.

I think it makes the most sense to drop your Wisconsin guy, whether you want to tell him about the cheating is up to you, really, because he probably won't find out. I think you might feel like you're coming cleaner if you tell him you've got someone else, but I dunno, it's your call really.

Realistically, you're 17 and you've had a long distance relationship with no physical contact for 5 years. That's pretty impressive, it doesn't happen often for a reason. I think the reason is just that it's too much distance. It's hard to maintain a relationship like that, and if you're already cheating on him, then it's probably not worth it to stay anyway.

[Black Rose]

look ive dumped him now. hes known everything since it happened cause i felt bad so i told him about 3 days later. and every time after that. he doesnt care. read the rest of my posts and ull be updated.

[EightEleven91]

Originally Posted by St.Vincent

Guys, Dan, ok--I don't think it's fair to attack the OP. This is teenhelp.

I think that if you're really wanting to have sex with one guy, then it's not going to be healthy for you to be like "I'm with this guy, but I'm wanting to do that guy" because then I think you'll never enjoy being with either guy--and you'll just feel guilty and bad.

I think it makes the most sense to drop your Wisconsin guy, whether you want to tell him about the cheating is up to you, really, because he probably won't find out. I think you might feel like you're coming cleaner if you tell him you've got someone else, but I dunno, it's your call really.

Realistically, you're 17 and you've had a long distance relationship with no physical contact for 5 years. That's pretty impressive, it doesn't happen often for a reason. I think the reason is just that it's too much distance. It's hard to maintain a relationship like that, and if you're already cheating on him, then it's probably not worth it to stay anyway.

Sorry but I AM allowed an opinion, and its not an attack on anybody, and if you read my post properly you'll see I did give help, I said split up with him.
Im not prepared to be soft to people that are doing something very wrong. I dont have to be either.

[Black Rose]

kk now dont fight!
ive split. so im single. where do i goo from here?
please read the other 2 posts!

[PSY]

Since the OP has created new threads, I'm going to close this one.