Boys, Dreams, & Troble!

[Black Rose]

ok i know i constatly talk bout this but it helps me. i have had dreams bout this one boy for 3 nights and think about him all day for the past 3 days! i think its a little unheathy but i cant stop. my dreams arent bad they are like us going to the mall and shopping or something like that... but we never have been to the mall together. i think thats a tad strange. but it gets weirder. this guy and have dated 6 times! i still love him even after he dumped me all those times. i try to look my best and he always winds up coming back to me like i want but right now he has a pregnant gf... they are on and off kinda relatinship... but i just dont know if i should give him the note i wrote expressing my feelings for him or not. you see hes the guy i had sex with and i love him. i kinda want more though and at my age thats not heathy. i just wish i knew how he felt about me.

[Rhop101]

To be honest he doesn't sound like that great of a guy and I think you should not tell him about these dreams and try to stop thinking about him. He's dealing with a pregnant gf and he's left you before 6 times!!! He just uses you as someone to come back to and it doesn't sound like he has changed. I recommend you stay away form him.

[Black Rose]

but i love this guy and my gut says i need to be with him!

[EightEleven91]

Dated 6 times.. Hmm.. You've split up a number of times for a reason, right?

[Black Rose]

we um hit bumps in the road... if u wanna put it that way. but im hoping to get back on track.

[chanelxo]

From what you said,he doesn't sound the best guy.And i'm sure you deserve someone alot better,and you may think you love him now but one day you'll meet a better guy and forget about that guy! believe me i went threw something kinda the same & now i can careless about him.Yourself is the most important.

One of my fav qoutes are "Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option."

[ShimmeringFaerie]

I second the quote from chanel.

And am I right in assuming that this guy keeps coming back to you because he thinks you look good? (may be off there, but that's what it sounded like...) Can I ask what you actually like about this guy? I know you said that your gut says you need to be with him, but if you don't have any solid reasons to be with him (because you love people for reasons, not just because), then I think you really need to think about why you're actually interested in him. Because he doesn't sound that great. And I'm not just saying that based on the numerous break-ups. I know all too well that a number of break-ups can be just immaturity at that age or due to other issues going on. Of course that depends on the reasons he gave you when you did break up.

I wouldn't advise coming between him and his girlfriend though, especially if she's pregnant. She would need plenty of support at this time, and if he's any sort of decent, he will want to give that to her (even if it's just as a friend and not as a partner).

[Thurineth]

You dates 6 times although you've been with your other guy for 5 years... so you were under twelve when you dated him...

right.

I don't think you're ready for any of this. You've just finished a relationship and yet you "love" this guy. I seriously think you're rushing in and don't know what you want... take a step back for a while.

[TheNumber42]

I think the best thing you can do is to move on. He doesn't sound like a very good guy and it doesn't sound like you've had a very healthy relationship either. You can find someone else to be happy with that will treat you so much better than him. Just do your best to move on right now and let him do his own thing. He really needs to be there for his pregnant girlfriend right now, anyway.