His mom. Strong beliefs.

[Lil-x]

This is really stressing me out, and I hoped you guys would be able to shed some light on it?

Okay, so me and my current boyfriend have been dating for around 6 months now and I have no doubt that it's love. Last year was the worst year of my life and I sunk into a depression, but he's saved me, quite honestly.

There's just one problem, his mom is a really strong christian, and I mean STRONG. They went through a really rough time years ago and then she found God. I believe in God to a certian level, but he has been slowly losing his faith for some time, back down to an average level of christianity really. Perhaps because he's had it forced down his throat for years. She would like to convert me as well.

So anyway, she's banned him from kissing me (as if he actually follows that rule!) and I stayed over at his the other night, we spent the whole night downstairs making out and that, but then went back up at like 6am. He stayed in his room (where I was sleeping) with the door ajar at like 8am. Lying next to me.. not actually IN the bed (both fully dressed) then she was like pretty angry.

She doesn't want him to hold hands now either because it creates 'lustful thoughts'... she's threatening to take him out of school (in the middle of his GCSEs!) so that temptation won't be in his eyes etc..

I'm so worried she's going to force him to break up with me, I can't lose him?

Help anybody?

Sorry if this should be in a different forum.

Thanks..

[Eljoria]

The mum shouldn't have any choice in whatsoever, no choices that are made between you and your boyfriend should be made by the mum. You should leave him til his GCSES as I know how it feels as you know everyone only has one choice in the lifetime of doing the GCSES and you should tell the mum that you're not oing to do anything and your allowed to do what you want but if you still have to follow the rules, its best to talk her down with it and make some deal out of it.

[Xujhan]

First talk to your boyfriend and find out how he feels about the situation, and if he wants to do any particular thing about. It's his life in question, so it's largely up to him. My advice though would be to cool it until he GCSES are over, then confront his mum about it. If you do, you guys should plan it out beforehand, make sure you're on the same page, and have some idea of how much you're willing to compromise; which rules's you're willing to accept and which you're not.